Category Archives: Wisdom

Happily Ever After

wedding-322034_1920There is a reason why the phrase “happily ever after” appears on fairy tales and not in wedding vows.  Yet, many who are married seem to think that somewhere in the fine print there is an understanding that another person is to be responsible for our happiness.  Having no scripture, no vow to substantiate the validity of that request means that its neither a requirement of our spouse to accommodate that request nor is it our responsibility to fulfill that for anyone else.  Happiness is a state of being that is predicated on our relationship with the Creator.

Happy is that people, that is in such a case: yea, happy is that people, whose God is the LORD.  (Psa 144:15)

Another reason why we may find ourselves in a state of unhappiness may be because we are not keeping the laws of God.  According to the bible there are forty two verses where the word “happy” and sometimes translated “blessed” (strongs number H835) appears and only two conclude a form of happiness based on what another human being can provide and in that context it was related to having a child which was a response of a person not a command of the Almighty. (Gen. 30:13)  Another such scripture that eludes to happiness being directed towards an individual is once again based on children not the responsibility of a spouse. (Psa. 127)   The majority of the scriptures on this topic falls under three primary categories:

  • Those who keep the laws of God,
  • Those who seek after wisdom and understanding,
  • Those who suffer for righteousness sake

Many of us make happiness a requirement of another individual as though it is a commandment when in actuality if we keep the commandments of YHVH, God is stating to us that we would be happy.  Have we tested him in this?  Are we keeping the commandments of the Almighty?  This notion or expectation of someone or something else to bring me happiness is a tall order that is guaranteed to lead to a let down.  A lot of my unhappiness in other words was self induced because I had a wrong perspective concerning happiness and who was responsible for providing that to me.

There are laws that God established concerning the duties of a wife to a husband as well as the duties of a husband to a wife.  While we can have all the reasons in the world for being remiss in fulfilling those duties, no excuse will hold up in Yah’s court when we come before him.  So for this reason I am happy as the scripture states I would be for accepting the correction of the Almighty.  (Job 5:17)  Correcting poor behavior or habits obviously doesn’t happen over night, but the happiness I feel is like the relief you feel when you confirm the diagnosis of an unnamed sickness.  I don’t know if you ever had something wrong in your body and no one could tell you what it was.  You’ve been to doctors and they can’t tell you, you’ve prayed about it, and you still didn’t get an answer.  Not knowing what is wrong can be just as bad as figuring out what you got, and just as deadly.  The idea that what you are experiencing is all in your head and not real can lead to self doubt and make you feel like you are going insane.  Putting a name to it somehow brings about a strange feeling of calmness that comforts you.  Because now you can begin to address the problem, since it has a name.  We know that God’s name is above every name that is named. (Eph. 1:21)  But it’s hard to pray for a disease that has no name, it feels like beating the air or fighting the wind.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. (Eph 5:22-30)

Many women become unglued with verse 22, but the bottom line is if this scripture didn’t end with, “as unto the Lord”, then I could see how this could be problematic.  We know that the Lord would never ask us to do something that is against his word, and therefore if we understand that our submission is not just to a man, but to YAH, man is fallible and as such we are not expected to obey  ANY MAN that would command us to commit a sin.  Submission is a heart attitude concerning authority, and through our submission in marriage we are able to reverse the Eve effect that exists in society.

We also see that he doesn’t make a condition that if your husband loves you, as Christ loved the church only then are you to submit to him.  The same way he doesn’t make a commitment to husbands that they are to love you, only if you submit to them.  Every individual is responsible for their role in the relationship and praise Yah that he is just and won’t judge us by others action, nor judge others by ours.  Each individual will be judged by their own actions.  Which brings me again back to why I am so happy.  Because it was the word that stated, “For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged.”(1Co 11:31)

In my actions I lived as though the principle of reciprocity was to govern my actions with my husband rather then the principles of scripture which is not depended or dictated on how another treats you, whether wrong or perceived wrong, but rather on your personal relationship with YHVH through his son YeHosHua the Maschiach.  If YeHoshua waited on His bride to rise to the fullness of His expectation of her to be obedient to Him in everything before he loved us, where would we be?  As scripture put it, we love him because he first loved us. (1 Jn 4:19)  He initiated the love and boy am I grateful.  This is where our happiness should lie.  People will mess up, Yehoshua knows this, which is why there is no scripture that tells us to trust man, any reference to trust in the bible is in relationship to God, but never to man.  We can trust God in man, but not man alone.  My confrontation on this topic was liken to a diagnosis of a problem that was causing me much grief in my own relationship, and though I still have not arrived, I am thankful to find my way back on the track, and praise God that my Happily Ever After is not dependent on humanity, but is found securely in Him.

 

 

Spring Cleaning

The Feast of Unleavened Bread is a perfect time to do spring cleaning.  It’s an ideal time to clean both the in and outside of your cup.  Those who keep or at least commemorate The Feast of Unleavened Bread understand the importance of ridding ones home of any and all leaven.  Those of us who love Messiah knows no matter how many places you look or no matter how thorough you are there is a possibility you have overlooked some and found leaven in your midst.  Bottomline even when we strive to live a life without leaven (sin), it’s presence is always near lurking in the corners or recesses of our mind.  Not that we always reach for it or touch it, because it is far easier to keep from eating leaven for seven days then to locate all leaven that could be stuck in drawers or little fragments waisted here or there.  Thus as scripture says, “…when I would do good evil is present with me.” (Rom. 7:21)

Amazing thing for me is every year I observe the feast the more humble I become concerning it.  It helps me realize how vulnerable I am to sin and how desperately I need his wisdom and direction.  The more I learn, the more I realize I don’t know.  When starting to keep the feast there is this childlike zeal you get like finding hidden treasure.  You want to share it with those you love, but you want to make sure what you found is indeed real.  Once authentication has taken place and you begin to share this treasure with others you begin to find yourself in debates instead of being able to enjoy the fruit of your findings.  Your zeal can turn to dogmatic arrogance as the goal changes from sharing the treasure to debating its value.  You begin to understand that people can be looking at the same treasure and one sees its value while the other sees flaws.  Likewise, I look back at how often we shared the treasure of Yah’s feast and some saw it as legalistic rituals that didn’t apply to them and others saw it as the missing link.  The “more” they knew their faith possessed.  Today, I just feel grateful that Yah has opened my eyes to see the truth and to have a love for it even if it debunks my long held beliefs. I don’t feel it is my responsibility to prove its authentic value, but simply to present it for what it is and let others come to their own conclusion.  My prayer is that YHVH will open my eyes and theirs to all the truth and embrace where it leads us.

Having said that this year it dawned on me the physical health benefits of fasting from yeast.  As many people know yeast is the main culprit for fungus growth.  While I admittedly have not done an in-depth study on the link between fasting from it and improved health. I realize Yah’s commandments have fulfilment on multiple levels. We know Deuteronomy 28 makes it clear the keeping of Yah’s commandments produced physical blessings.  

They also take in consideration seasons and agriculture.  So I propose this, what if fasting from yeast provides a biological reset?  Like rest to the land every 7 years helps improve soil, could fasting from yeast the prescribed seven days help immobilize the overgrowth of fungus in our bodies, and aid in proper digestion of freshly created yeast after the seven day fast?  I can’t confirm this yet, but that will definitely be my quest, to research this link.  If you know of any research or have any thoughts on the topic would love to hear it.

Are You Good or Are You Covered

We in our society seem to be preoccupied with our own goodness. Labels of who`s good and who`s bad seem to be thrown around like pillows across a bed, yet this term is a misnomer. The issue was settled in scripture by the only one who could rightfully be identified as “good”. (Matt. 19:17)  There will be thousands of so called “good” people who will go to hell and their goodness won’t save them, only obedience to the Gospel will. Just as it was in Egypt, believe it or not, not every Egyptian was brutal like Pharaoh was. Much like the culture we have today you have many who didn’t own Hebrew slaves or necessarily mistreat them, many just enjoyed the benefits of a privileged life being a descendant of the prevailing nationality that was in power. Yet, their privilege came to an end when the judgments begin to hit and a distinction was made by the Almighty, but in favor of the oppressed, not the privileged. However, even the oppressed wouldn’t have been spared from the final blow to the Egyptians had they not obeyed the requirements of the gospel, and based on the mixed multitude that left with the Hebrews from Egypt I would venture to say that many of those who were Egyptians or a crossbreed between the two nations reaped the benefits when they obeyed the tenets of the Almighty, which was to accept the Gospel.

Good people from every religion under heaven will meet their fate in hell and it won’t be as a result of the good they did, but as a result of them not applying the blood on the doorpost of their heart as the only acceptable atonement for their sin. For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. (Rom 3:23) Their rejection of allowing the sacrifice of the unblemished Lamb to become a part of their being, and refusing to walk in the faithful trust that every Hebrew who was spared from the loss of a child were responsible to do will be responsible for their destiny. Lack of obedience comes at a great cost and many will pay that cost with their life, for the wages of sin is death. (Rom. 6:23)  The gift has already been extended which leads to eternal life and the “good person” won`t be eligible to obtain it, only the covered person will. So instead of focusing on how “good” we are let`s start focusing on how saved we are, because its not our goodness that will deliver us, but rather His salvation.

Identifying the Leaky Faucets in Your Life

These days my life has been busier then they have in a really long time.  I believe God gives you these moments of refuge and retreat because he knows the road ahead is going to be so bumpy.  In the process though I have learned a lot about myself and have come to appreciate the importance of being very selective about who I share information with.  Many of us especially as women, but men have this issue too can before we know it be guilty of being the leaky faucet in the relationships we possess.  However, I am realizing that when we are most vulnerable and in need of help we can often share information with people and reveal confidences under a misguided belief that everyone is on the same page.  We don’t assess that some people use your information to hurt you, not to help you.  Then others with information can try to help you, but in the end only hurt you. An important attribute I am learning in this journey we call life is to be selective about my communication and provide it on an as needed basis.  My father has taught me well that not everybody is on your side, and thus not everybody needs to know your business.

Sadly, many of us don’t even know when we are being used by Satan, and unfortunately, that means others of us have to be mindful of how we speak and to whom we speak.  Again, not everybody has your best interest at heart when they are in your business.  One scripture that constantly comes to my mind since I have been in my home town this week is

Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.

1Co 15:33

     So often people use your painful situation as their comic relief, making for sport your trials as the most recent gossip that they share with their friends, not realizing that loose lips sinks ships.  Forgetting that the seed they sow is the same one they reap.  Yet the contradiction of it all is the same people who feel so free to share your business, can be so abhorrent when it comes to theirs.  But in a society of hypocrisy this shouldn’t be surprising.   I say this with a heavy heart, but more then ever I realize that I am a child of Abraham, still looking for a city whose Builder and Maker is Yah and so thankful that I have no problems leaving my homeland to as far as I must go to get there.  Those courageous enough to let go of the dead weight that this system holds one captive to has truly been liberated to enter so freely into that space.  Guarding your conversation and to whom you speak I am finding is the best way to preserve a more simplistic lifestyle, and these days I am all about simplicity.

Overwhelmingly Grateful

I am always overwhelmed by the awesomeness of God.  Only He can orchestrate life in such a way that where He needs you, you will be.  After a trip of a lifetime, I had plans to share with my family my report of the land the bible says flows with milk and honey. Yah made it affordable and mixed with my faith that every detail of my return home from home would be completed in the most efficient way.  

Unfortunately, duty called my husband to work so the end of my adventure would be just me.  So after two days in Atlanta with my sister we traveled to SC for my Aunt’s 67th birthday party. A full yard arrayed with many people from all over coming to celebrate with her.  It was a high affair to say the least.  I was so excited to see both my mom and dad, but neither was on time.  This caused no alarm as this was the usual pattern.  Then something strange occurred. Apparently a friend of my dad’s was bringing him, but after strange behavior by him which she didn’t understand clearly triggered a response of frustration and confusion caused her to leave him in a condition I would later find was dire. 

When I found him on the floor conscious but shaking I asked if he was okay and why he was on the floor.  He responded slurring he was okay.  I knew instantly from previous experience he was having a seizure, but unlike before he had to have been in this position for longer than an hour and he wouldn’t or rather couldn’t physically grab my hand to get up.  So I called 911 despite his pleas not to, realizing he wasn’t aware of his condition.  

Let me back up a bit, driving to his house I prayed in the Spirit for Yah to prepare me and ground me for whatever I might see.  I wanted to be calm because the tendency to be emotional in such a situation can cause you the one needing to be rational to become irrational.  So I prayed with every decision and every step for guidance.  This served me well. But not going into great detail, the bottom line is we got to the hospital and he is in somewhat stable condition, though he hasn’t gotten up yet.  So your continue prayer for him to wake up fully would be appreciated.

However with all the possible negative things I could easily dwell on I am in awe that every detail was accounted for.  You see what happened to my dad could have happened if my plane from Israel didn’t just happen to layover in Atlanta which was key to me making it.  If my Aunt didn’t have this party I would have been in Louisiana.  If my sister wasn’t going she wouldn’t have been at the party to be alarmed that something was wrong, and probably I would have taken a megabus rather then drive which would have left me without a car.  And then if she wasn’t there she could not have told me, who having witnessed my dad’s seizure in the past to discern the urgency, and had my dad’s friend not told us what happened and the state he was in, plus leave the door unlock so that I could get to him, this alarm could have been a full blown tragedy. Even little details didn’t go unnoticed, I didn’t have any real food all day because the party was on the Sabbath I knew I wouldn’t buy anything to eat, and most of my snacks weren’t that healthy, so by that evening when we ate I made sure I got in the line and ate early.  The nourishment was essential to helping me stay well and had I waited I wouldn’t have eaten at all.  

So you see regardless of the outcome, I am grateful I was able to be there for my dad who is always there for me.  And overwhelmed that my heavenly Father who has allowed me to serve my in-laws when in need has blessed me to be able to serve my dad in his need. While I could ask questions about why he was left or if he was taking his meds, or why he didn’t have oh his life alert.  The bottomline is I can’t overlook the fact that Yah knew what would happen and made it possible for my dad NOT to be alone in his time of need and allowed me to be the one able to be there.  Praise YAH, only He can use weak moments in our lives to reveal His presence in every detail.

I share this hoping it will encourage my family to trust God has everything under control, but also to let others know the benefits of being in the kingdom of Yah.  The God of Israel neither sleeps nor slumbers and I am so thankful that I am in the family of God and get to reap the benefits of being in His kingdom.  HalleluYah

Yah speaks to us, even in the little things we see in life.  We are usually too distracted by life to see His wisdom.  It’s no small wonder Yahushah (Jesus) used parables related to nature to share deep spiritual principles. Since He is the same yesterday, today, and forever, we shouldn’t be surprised that He is still doing so today.