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How to Understand the Will of YHVH: Day 6: The Earth Brings Forth

And God said, Let the earth bring forth the living creature after his kind, cattle, and creeping thing, and beast of the earth after his kind: and it was so.

Gen 1:24

 On day 6 when Yah spoke the first thing he commands the earth to do is to bring forth. The connotation here is similar to that of a woman bringing forth a child into the earth.   On day 5 the sky and the waters brought forth it’s creature and on this day the land brings forth it’s creatures. Yah makes a distinction between us, and the creatures that come before our arrival; the common link that we share with land animals is that we came forth from the dust of the earth. Let’s keep reading we will then see the distinction that is important to dispel the myth of evolution, and why the belief that we come from these same creatures that were created at the beginning of day 6 shall not be, if we believe God and that he exists.

 And God made the beast of the earth after his kind, and cattle after their kind, and every thing that creepeth upon the earth after his kind: and God saw that it was good.

Gen 1:25

 Again, notice that when God created every living creature that came before us that he makes it clear that they were created “after his kind”. Once again he repeats this for every beast, and cattle, and every creeping thing. Why? So that no one would get the idea that cross breeding between different kinds could exist. Thus a monkey can NEVER produce a human being because we are not of the same kind.

And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Gen 1:26-28

If we believe that God is indeed God and that he is not a man that he should lie then we must believe that this word that was written for us is true. The evidence of that belief is reflected in our acceptance of the verses written above. First and foremost what distinguishes us from the birds of the air, the fish of the sea, the beasts of the earth, and that which creepeth upon the earth is while God made it clear that it was good what he created before us, he never said about anything he created up to the point that he created man that they were in “his image and likeness”. He didn’t give the birds of the air dominion over the fish of the sea, or the beasts of the earth dominion over the creeping things of the earth. The power to reign, rule, and subdue the earth was given only to one created being and that was those who he said were in his image and likeness created male and female, them alone was dominion given. Work was created for Adam and Eve before they got here. Reinforcing the truth we know that idle minds are the devil’s workshop. When Yah created mankind he understood that he needed to have something to do. This is why so many men receive so much satisfaction from working, and many die after they retire. Why? Because wrapped up in what we do we find purpose, fulfillment meaning in life. The will of YHVH is not for mankind to walk aimlessly on this earth just fulfilling their own pleasures but to find fulfillment in discovering and living out their purpose by using their gifts that have been provided to them. We are not supposed to bury our gift but reproduce it. Touching other peoples lives with it, lest we lose it and our talent be given to another who will use and multiply it. Anything that wasn’t fruitful was hewn down, because dead weight can’t carry you to the next level. Accessing the dead weight in our lives is a good thing, because that which is not a part of your destiny is a distraction from it.

Questions to Ponder:

  • What did God instruct you to do with your life? If you don’t know have you asked? Scripture teaches we have not because we ask not, and he also covered if we ask and don’t receive. If we come to God wanting something just to fulfill our own pleasures we won’t get what we asked for. (James 4:1-3)
  • How do you value your life? Do you see yourself as less than or mediocre? Do you see yourself as being made in the image and likeness of God? Does your life and the way you carry yourself represent an example of the Father who you were patterned after? If you don’t evaluate who or what is in your life or who or what is not in your life that is giving you a false image of the original intent of your design?
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How To Understand The Will of YHVH for your Life: Day 4 Created To Be A Sign That Shines

And God said, Let there be lights in the firmament of the heaven to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs, and for seasons, and for days, and years: And let them be for lights in the firmament of the heaven to give light upon the earth: and it was so.

Gen. 1:14-15

            Notice where YHVH put the lights? Far removed from the earth and in a place visible to every place on the earth. Why? A sign must have the ability to be perceived in some way in order to be effective. A sign is for a purpose it ministers to every living creature underneath it. As we were instructed by our Messiah to preach the Gospel to every creature, because not only were we affected by the sin of Adam, but as the scripture also says the whole creation groaneth and travaileth waiting for the children of God to appear. (Mark 16:15; Rom. 8:21-22) A sign tells you something important and like an exclamation mark it is set apart to reflect attention to itself. A moon big enough that you feel like you can reach out and touch it can’t be overlooked, you can choose to ignore it, or dismiss it, but those who pay attention, know what time it is, and can map their way by it. Perception and understanding is important this is why scripture rewards the person who understands and perceives. See you can see and not see, and you can hear and not hear, but the person who can see and hear is liken unto the wise virgins who understood the importance of having a vessel full of oil, in the event the Lord delays his coming. (Matt. 25)

Signs give clear direction to the person perceptive enough to pay attention, and know what it means. This is the second time in Creation that God is going to say something about “lights” being created. On day one there was no sun, moon, or stars, only God, He himself lit the world up for four days. By day four He shared the light that was within himself with the world in the expression of a Great light to rule the day (the Sun) and a lesser light (the moon) to rule the night and what was after that was fragments of light that salt and peppered the sky called (stars).

Notice that signs is only the first part of how these lights function, they are also said to be for seasons. Your ability to know whether it is summer or fall will be based on these same signs in the sky. In our lives seasons will change and our ability to discern that change will be based on understanding how the heavenly bodies directly relate to our lives. What happens when you haven’t accomplished what you should have within the season that was provided? Does it carry forward or must we shift our thinking and our purpose to fit with the new season ahead of us?

 

Time is not forever, and if the changing of days and the shifting of light doesn’t tell us anything else it tells us that time is continuing, and every day we receive new mercies, why? Because gradually, but continuously even as the days change and new days arise, so also does our purpose have to change. Yesterday’s mercy isn’t extended to us today, or tomorrow, therefore new mercies must be provided for new days. You can’t recapture or accomplish what you were graced to do yesterday tomorrow, and the more tomorrows that come the less possible it will be to recapture the things you had in your heart to do years before. These signs are a constant reminder that we are on borrowed time, and any unnecessary baggage only serves as a distraction from fulfilling today’s purpose. Thus, while it is yet day we are NOT to harden our heart. Why? Because a hard heart can’t hear God and without hearing the Father you are destined to miss out on fulfilling in the season you’re in your purpose.

How many of us go to bed haunted by NOT meeting the goals that we have established for the day? How much of that could really be our acknowledging how short we are falling of fulfilling HIS desire for us in that day. Let’s consider what all God is accomplishing in a day. We have gone passed four of them and we all should agree that if we had to do all that he did on any single day it would be a massive undertaking. On day six He created us in His image and likeness, that being said what do you think His expectation of us would be? We all are going to have to give a reckoning or account of what we did with the signs and seasons he has given us. No excuses are going to be acceptable, we are either going to find hits or suffer the loss of the misses in our fulfillment of this work HE is doing. This is why understanding the will of God is so vitally important. Every day we put a new piece in the puzzle that makes up His overall plan for our life. The goal is to have the puzzle complete before we leave. Paul put it this way, he finished his course. (2 Tim 4:7) We do not want to leave any pieces behind because every one of us have our own puzzle to finish that we will put together with every other persons piece until we accomplish this amazing plan that God has laid out since Day One.

This brings me to the next thing these lights were to tell us, he didn’t stop at just signs and seasons, but stated that these lights were also for days. What we have touched on is the importance of our days.  How they are numbered just as the stars are numbered, and some days we can seemingly see every star, other days we see them shooting, and some days we don’t see them at all because they are hidden. While we may never live long enough to accurately number every star as sure as the Lord knows every number of hair on our head he knows the numbers of the stars and our days are accounted for. The bottom line is that is how we are, there are some days that we are shooting and moving amidst the stagnate stars around us making our mark. But how many of us can say we see shooting stars everyday? This is not a good thing we should always be moving in a way that others when they see us, sees Him high and lifted up. Our star should make people have to look up as every shooting star does exactly that. It calls you to attention, make you stop what you are doing and notice it’s presence. Unfortunately, many of us don’t have clear nights where the world can see us because instead we are hiding it under a bushel, or we are being distracted by the grey clouds that seek to distract us from living. Thus, most days we are like those stars hidden above the clouds. Our hidden visibility spanning years rather than just days.

This is the final thing lights are for, years. When we delay our purpose we find ourselves further behind schedule.  Signs in the heaven can tell us things that will happen years away.  Which is the other end of the spectrum.  Just as Daniel who received amazing revelation about things that would take place long after he was gone, we do serve the same God who has not stopped sharing revelation about the future with his people.  The only ones who lack benefit from this truth are those who refuse to listen.  Abraham had things put in place in his life and made decisions concerning his life based on a reality he would not live to see with his physical eye.  Yah even told Abraham to look at the stars in the heaven and prophetically revealed to him that his seed would be as numerous as they were. (Gen. 15:5)  Therefore, the stars in the heaven can tell us the future, but we must always remember that the future it tells is not focused on us, but on the One who created them.  They tell us about the Messiah, even as the wise men who sought the Christ knew by the stars that he had been born. (Matt. 2)

Questions to ponder?

What are you doing with the time Yah has given you?

Are you still focused on accomplishing tasks that’s time has passed in your life?

Is your heart open and receptive to what Yah is speaking for you to do today?

Have you put aside dead weights that seek to hinder you from fulfilling more perfectly God’s plan for your life?

 

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How To Understand The Will Of YHVH For Our Lives: Day Three: Gathering To Be Fruitful

It has been a while, but I haven’t forgotten the series, just enjoying the Feast days provided by our Heavenly Father.  A break from routine can be refueling for the Soul.  So we are now on Day Three and there is much to learn and much to see.  We will dissect and digest every morsel the Father has provided for us in this day of Creation to see how it impacts His Will for Our lives.
And God said, Let the waters under the heaven be gathered together unto one place, and let the dry land appear: and it was so.

Gen 1:9

Throughout scripture we see this theme being carried out rather for good or evil. At the tower of Babel people gathered together, in opposition to Yah, yet even He recognized the power in their unity. Thus His response to confuse their speech was predicated by the statement, because they are one, nothing shall be impossible for them. (Gen. 11:6) It’s when the body reaches unity in the faith that it reaches maturity. (Eph. 4:13)

And God called the dry land Earth; and the gathering together of the waters called he Seas: and God saw that it was good.

Gen 1:10  

The theme of dividing, the element of two gatherings with opposing ideologies, directions, and functions. Before fruitfulness can take place there must be a separating and gathering of the waters. Like wheat from the tares, or authentic and counterfeit money it is only after the dividing of that which is evil is separated from that which is righteous, then and only then can effective fruitfulness for the kingdom be achieved. It’s when we gather with those who have the water that we realize how dry we were without it. It is in the presence of those with the same motivation and who are walking in their purpose that we begin to discover our own, and it is out of that discovery that we begin to find peace with ourselves and others around us, and can genuinely rejoice with others who fulfill theirs. Remembering Yah’s desire is for us to be fruitful and multiply and He is not looking for any type of fruit but quality fruit. This is even evident in the distinction between how he received Cain and Abel’s offering. Any kind of fruit, any kind of way is not acceptable. He wants good fruit, and abundant fruit. This can’t be achieved retrieving mixed teachings, only that pure wisdom that comes from above will provide the direction needed that is put in place by Yah’s built in organized family structure.

  And God said, Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb yielding seed, and the fruit tree yielding fruit after his kind, whose seed is in itself, upon the earth: and it was so.

And the earth brought forth grass, and herb yielding seed after his kind, and the tree yielding fruit, whose seed was in itself, after his kind: and God saw that it was good.

Gen 1:11-12 

  Every seed yielded fruit after its kind. What kind are you?   We can’t begin to understand the will of God for our lives if we don’t know what kind we are. You can spend your entire life trying to become an orange tree when your seed is that which came from an apple. What ends up happening if you do that is you will stifle your fruit and you will be barren instead of fruitful.

The days of Creation are ordinal for life, meaning every detail put in place was essential to preparation for the next. Shooting out as a star, or having your brightness shine forth as the noon day requires separating from that which is dry and congregating with that which hydrates and nourishes, and cleanses the body like water. It’s hard to get all the nutrients your body needs if it is clogged. Understanding the order of God in the creation week helps us understand the order we should have in life. Recognizing that every piece to our particular puzzle has a specific place it needs to be and some pieces won’t be readily identifiable until other pieces are in place. I can’t expect to read well without knowing the alphabet. Understanding Yah’s order, and understanding what seed you are in His garden is key to unlocking the mystery of His will for your life.

Take some time to find out what “kind” you are. Ask the Father for understanding as to what He put you here on earth to do and access if the things you are doing are preparing you for that or hindering you from completing that. It would be a terrible thing to have spent your life following your own will, thinking that this was the will of God for you. Which is why we are covering this area. The more we understand who we are and why we are here the better it will be for the entire body of Christ. Every joint supplying what the body needs require every joint knowing what it is supposed to do.

It excites me to see people living our their purpose and fulfilling God’s will, it serves as an example and motivation to know that He has one for me, and if for me I know for you. He desires for us to be fruitful, and you don’t have to have children come out of your body to achieve that. As the scripture have said more are the children of the barren. (1 Sam. 2:5) If you have raised up seed to fulfill the “kind” that the Lord has called them to be, then you have bore seed unto Yah which is far more precious then just bearing seed in the natural. Many bear seed in the natural and cast them aside, whereas those who don’t bear in the natural, take in the natural seed and birth them in the Spirit such that they know who they are and what they were called here to do. For which is better to be born in the natural or to be born in the Spirit? Or should I say which is of greater profit to the Kingdom of God, to be born in the natural or to be born again in the Spirit?

In day three this is what you will discover, and I encourage you to ponder each question, chew on it, and let it regurgitate and chew some more, for there is much the Father has to say about His will for your life, but until now many haven’t been listening. This is the time to take out and meditate on His word and get instruction and direction.


 

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How to Understand the Will of YHVH for Your Life: Day Two Divided by Divine Mandate

We discovered on Day One that when Yah (God) spoke, things happened. Let’s decode the prophetic mystery that everyone who successfully completes day one find themselves entering into. Remembering that until we hear and embrace the voice of YHVH to come in through the only door he has made available to Him, which is Yahushah. It is not until the Light of the World invade our darkness that we are able to graduate from day one. Until the Almighty speaks the only thing we have is no form, void, and darkness saturating us. Yet, as stated last week, being born is not the end of eternal life in the Kingdom of Yah but rather is the beginning of life. So let’s see how day two provides instruction for us concerning God’s plan for our lives.

 

And God said, Let there be a firmament in the midst of the waters, and let it divide the waters from the waters.

And God made the firmament, and divided the waters which were under the firmament from the waters which were above the firmament: and it was so.

And God called the firmament Heaven. And the evening and the morning were the second day. (Gen. 1:6-8)

 

The theme of day two is separation. Much as a baby who is born must be cleaned up from the process of being born, we too as believers come into this walk with a lot of unclean ways that have to be cleaned up. However, unlike a newborn our cleansing will take a lot more time, this process represents the beginning of our working out of salvation.   Just as a baby isn’t expected to clean themselves notice who does the dividing on this day? It is God who does the dividing, our response is to submit to Him to do the cleaning. When he enters in our hearts He comes in with a mop, and His word is the disinfecting agent that cleanses us from our unrighteousness. As we allow the Light of His word to invade our darkness and to separate us from the water below and continuously feed us of the water above we find ourselves being renewed day by day. Cleansed by the washing of the water of the word. (Eph. 5:26)

 

One of the consistent experiences those who begin to walk with Christ discover is that they no longer want to do the things they used to do, and by design that means that it changes the allegiances we once had. Either your friends will make the changes you made or they will drop by the way side. You’ll find yourself making new friends who have a similar interest to fulfill God’s mission for them in life. In fact these friends will be like family to you in many ways, and depending on your natural families relationship with Christ will be closer than your natural family.

 

While it was never the will of YHVH for Adam and Eve to eat from the tree that brought forth death, we see that from the foundation of the world he planned for what could happen. The ultimate will of God for our lives is for us to trust and obey him. Hearing His will for our lives requires that we search ourselves for any hidden motives or agenda’s that are contrary to His will. In some cases if we are not hearing Him it is because of the distractions that we have put into place.

 

Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts. (James 4:3)

 

Dirty water indeed can be very distracting. It is only when we change the direction of our eyes that we are able to see the clear distinction between the two.

 

  1. What is it that you are looking at that is distracting you from seeing YHVH?
  2. Are there any hidden areas of your life that you are ignoring rather than submitting to Him for cleansing?
  3. How embracing are you of the changes he desires to make to your life?

 

The cleansing part of this process doesn’t help you understand His will for your life it is the necessary process to getting to His will. Let’s consider when YHVH meets with His people in the wilderness. They had three days of cleansing, separating themselves, and in a nutshell preparation for coming before the Holy God. This cleansing didn’t provide them instruction for what Yah’s will was for them, it positioned them so that they could hear His instructions, because He is Holy and NO flesh will glory in His presence. (Exo. 19) The cleaner we get the more prepared we will be for drawing nearer, and the closer we get to Him the closer we get to His will, which hasn’t changed from the beginning. To be in His image and likeness.

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How To Understand The Will of YHVH for Your Life: In The Beginning

Day One: In The Beginning…

“In the beginning, God…”Genesis 1 now if I stopped right there I have already said a mouthful. However, there are so many things I would like to say with just those four words quoted. First of all before words were spoken, before waters were moved over, before time itself there was God, Elohim, Omnipresent, Magnificent, Awesome, and Mighty in power, God. Now let’s make it personal, in our beginning there is God, and it is only until we receive Him as our Elohim do we enter into real life, the born again life.

Gen 1:1  In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth.

Gen 1:2  And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit of God moved upon the face of the waters.

The broad road reveals that many people live their entire lives never living past being without form, being void (empty), and in the dark. They never complete day one in their development in life. They spend day in and day out existing without knowing who they are, whose they are, and where they are going. Yet, even they are accounted for in the six days of work that God did here in Genesis. He left nobody out in His plan, and He gives us a choice to either stay out or to allow His Spirit to move upon the face of the deep waters of our heart so that we can experience the warmth of what’s about to happen next.

Gen 1:3  And God said, Let there be light: and there was light.

God begins to speak to us, first in Creation, and secondly of the work that His son Yahushah will do in our hearts. Notice what happens when He speaks? The entrance of light comes into the world. We know the Gospel tells us that Jesus (Yahushah) is the light of the world. (John 8:12) But not only that, he didn’t just say he was the light of the world, but he also said that we who are His are the light of the world. (Matt 5:14) Reminding us that from the beginning of creation we were not an afterthought but a forethought in the mind of God. Lack of understanding the purpose of our humanity and the responsibility God laid at our feet when the breath of life was given to us has caused many of us to live our lives aimlessly, selfishly, and wastefully.

If you or someone you know have not entered into the light of day one, then I encourage you to take this time to talk to the only One who can save you. To confess your sins to the High Priest chosen by the Creator of the Universe Jesus Christ (YaHoshua Ha Maschiach). Acknowledge Him as your Master, the Lord of your life, which means he has the privilege and the right to instruct you concerning how you should live and as any good parent would, he does lead you into the fullness of life. All of his instructions (laws) are given so that we can have life and that more abundantly.

Gen 1:4  And God saw the light, that it was good: and God divided the light from the darkness.

Gen 1:5  And God called the light Day, and the darkness he called Night. And the evening and the morning were the first day.

Now as we bring the first day to a close notice that God said, first that when he saw the light that the light was good. The next thing he does is separate that which is good, the light from the darkness. Notice that he doesn’t say the darkness was good, but that the light was good. Darkness is there, but it is only when we come out of it, into light that it is good. My prayer today is that as you discover who you are and whose you are that you will come out of darkness, into His light. Allow the Holy Spirit (Ruach Ha Khodesh) to move over the face of the waters of your heart and you will submit to His leading you into the word of God which brings the entrance of light. Often as believers we can get stagnate in our faith, where we camp on being born and stunt our growth. We don’t continue to cycle through God’s week and as a result miss out on more light to shine in our darkness. The only thing that can happen when we live this way is death, just as that is all that stagnate water leads to. It is only as the Spirit moves the water that we have life moving in the water.  Nothing that requires life to live can live in stagnate places. Stirring the water is an essential part of having healthy life. So if you are a believer which I hope you are, and you have been walking with God for a while but find yourself in a stagnate place, call upon the Lord, as Peter called upon Jesus when he found himself falling in that water. (Matt. 14:28) It’s okay to come out in the water and walk with Christ, just remember not to take your eyes off of him if you don’t want to fall.

 

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How to Understand the Will of YHVH for Your Life: Part VIII Hearing Her Voice When She Calls

Understanding the seven characteristics of YHVH is the foundation for understanding the Will of YHVH for your life. Understanding is the necessary bridge we must cross in order to get to her, wisdom that is. If we think about knowledge as being on one side of a cliff and understanding being the bridge that connects us to the other side of the cliff we are trying to get to which is wisdom. The distance between the two being too far to jump across, and too deep to risk falling, then we find that we can have knowledge, but without the bridge of understanding the path is too far for us to get to wisdom, and unfortunately many people spend their entire lives paying for knowledge only to never even find the bridge of understanding to have wisdom before times up. If you find yourself having the fortitude to read this article and to have kept up with this series consider yourself in the minority of the entire world who will acquire degrees many, and will ever be learning, but never coming to the knowledge of the truth. (2 Tim. 3:7) Whose eyes will always be darken though they search for her (wisdom) with all of the tools that knowledge has within it’s hands.

Don’t get me wrong, knowledge is necessary to get to the bridge. I mean if we do not have the ground beneath us to hold us up we are free falling in which the end of that person is destruction. So I do not minimize knowledge in this process of learning, I am simply saying that it is just the first step, but a necessary step it is. Those who neglect this step can find themselves as pointed out dead before they find the bridge. Knowledge is the basics that we can acquire and reveals that we are reaching for God, but understanding requires humility. It means that we have to depend on someone greater than ourselves to translate the information we have received. The lithmus test to our understanding is revealed in our application of the information we have, and wisdom reveals that we understand why what we did worked. A person who has wisdom understands the formula thus, they can duplicate the recipe in the event of repetition being required. This is why a wealthy person who loses their wealth can easily acquire it again as long as they understand why what they did worked.

Wisdom is spoken of in scripture in the feminine form, and while our male counterparts may find some solace in ignoring us because of Eve’s deception, it doesn’t erase the fact that in Yah’s infinite wisdom He chose to connect wisdom throughout the book of proverbs to that of a wise woman. Unfortunately, too many of our young men will go down the road to destruction because wisdom had called out to him and their inability to discern the virtuous woman of wisdom from the seductive woman of whoredom causes them to make poor choices that have destructive consequences to their future. Thus as stated earlier if we pursue wisdom instead of riches we will receive both. This is the understanding of why Solomon achieved such great success. He didn’t seek after riches, rather he sought after wisdom, and understanding that wisdom answers the “why something works” question, meant that all the other things would come. Wisdom ultimately representing the Kingdom of God, we can now understand why Matt. 6:33 instructs us to seek first the Kingdom of God, and all the other things will come. This was walked out in Solomon’s earliest days in power, thus, God gave him all the other stuff because he sought the Kingdom in his request.

Think about it, if you understand why your body functions better with certain foods rather than others then it stands to reason if you follow the wisdom you acquired your life will be healthier and longer. If you understand why your business formula produced wealth then you understand how to duplicate it thus your pockets get fatter.   This is why proverbs not only connects wisdom to the feminine gender but also compares it to rare jewels like rubies, or precious minerals like gold. It may take you a lifetime to find the formula, but if the formula is accurate it represents a greater wealth to leave down to the next generation then a handsome trust fund. How many children do we know who didn’t get their parents formula for success grew only to lose the wealth their parents acquired in their lifetime? Had their parents had the wisdom to pass down instead of the accumulated wealth then the family dynasty would be established for as long as they kept the secret.

The word of Yah is the timeless formula that has been passed down from generation to generation that if believers lived by it would see generational prosperity. The reasons many believers suffer from the very diseases that the God of Israel said he wouldn’t put on His people, is due to his people not believing or knowing what his word said about how to have life, and have it more abundantly. Yes we know the scripture that says that Jesus came that we might have life and that more abundantly, but we haven’t figured out the formula that Jesus walked in so that the blessings that were upon Him would be upon us. While the poor would be with us always, this was not supposed to be the case for His children. His children were called to be the head and not the tail, above only and not beneath, to be lenders and not borrowers, why? (Deut. 28:1-14) Because our wealth just like our works are supposed to connect those who are without to the Creator.

Our misunderstanding the instructions of God written in the first five books has caused us to be subject to the very curses that Jesus came to deliver us from in this earth. A child of God will not lose their eternal life for eating a pork chop, but certainly they will forfeit the quality and quantity of their life for not taking heed to the Father’s diet. Ignoring the wisdom of the Almighty costs us something always. Let us not think that our disobedient choices have no consequences otherwise we will find ourselves prey to the enemy and food for his menu. Understanding the will of YHVH requires that we have a heart pliable to Him so that when He speaks we will hear and obey without delay.

Next week we will start looking at biblical examples of those who walked in their purpose starting with Father Abraham. We will extract what common threads we can see in their life and examine ourselves to see where we may be falling short. Scripture makes it clear that the things that were written were written for us on whom the end of the world have come. There is no greater time than now that we need to know what the will of YHVH is for our life. We cannot afford to ignore the voice of the Almighty, and we must recognize that our lack of obeying can have dire consequences for both us, and those connected to us.

 


Do you know why Jesus told us to Be as wise as a serpent?  Have you ever wondered why he said that?  Did you know the invisible things of God can be seen by the things that he has made?  (Rom. 1:20)  In this book based on Matt. 10:16 Torie zeros in on that phrase and shares from the characteristics of the serpent wisdom that transcends time.  Follow her through the scriptures and strategically begin applying the wisdom of the serpent to your life as Jesus instructed.

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How to Understand The Will of YHVH For Your Life Part VII: All For Love

The greatest part of being in the image and likeness of Elohim is He is Love. The bible is a lesson in love, because when we failed in the Garden, we fell out of love with our Creator, and became lost. We became so wicked and vial that God had to wipe us out and start over with Noah, an experience so traumatic that we find that Noah in this new world found himself drunk. Much as in the judgment of Sodom and Gomorrah where once again the wickedness and lack of love of a people mandated the judgment of the Almighty which ended in only a man and his two daughters surviving from the city. Our greatest challenge, yet our greatest victory will be in loving others as Christ loved us. Our very existence is the expression of God’s love for He is Love. The Hebrew word for love tells the story much better than mere English words can express.

H157

אָהֵב    אָהַב

‘âhab    ‘âhêb

aw-hab’, aw-habe’

A primitive root; to have affection for (sexually or otherwise): – (be-) love (-d, -ly, -r), like, friend.

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Important to note Hebrew is written from right to left so in honor of keeping true to the language I right Hebrew in the order it is written but explain it in English in the order in which we right.

The first character in this word “Ahab” which is the word for Love is the picture graph of an ox’s head. In Hebrew the letters of the alphabet are not simply symbols as it is in English, but they are characters. Each character is based on the function of the animal or thing that it represents. Thus, (aleph) is the picture of an ox and an ox is a strong domestic servant. Hence, the character means strength. In Hebrew the characters also double as numbers and so (aleph) being the first character in the Hebrew Aleph Bet means first. The second character in the Hebrew word for love, which would be in the heart of the word is the character, Hey (hey), which is the picture of a person with their hands up beholding something greater than themselves. Thus to behold, to reveal, or to see is it’s meaning. The final character is the second character of the Hebrew alephbet and it means house        (bet). It also means inside because the most important function of a house is those who dwell within it. The interesting picture is that the first aleph and last bet character of love means Father. Thus the Father is the “strength of the house”. By inserting the hey in the center of the word we see that love is to see the father. Scripture teaches us that no man hath seen the Father at any time, but the only begotten son that is in the bosom (which is the heart of our being) of the Father hath declared him. (John 1:18) Thus when we saw the Son, who walked in full obedience to the Father has become for us the revealed love of God. Powerful. The love of the Father (betaleph) was revealed (hey) in the birth, life, crucifixion, death, burial, resurrection, and ascension of the Son (Y’hushah Ha Maschiach, Jesus the Christ).

The greatest character flaw we as people reflect by disobeying the will of God is that of love. Because love was obedient even unto death, even death of the Cross to YHVH (Abba). (Php. 2:8) Walking in love is doable. It is the way of the transgressor that is hard scripture reveals. (Prov. 13:15)  Because we were made in the image and likeness of God, we were created to walk in the fullness of His character, our bodies were not created to sin, and thus sin equals death within because it requires us to fight against ourselves.  Scripture makes that clear a house divided cannot stand, and thus we bring death upon ourselves by walking contrary to the character of the Almighty.

Walking in love leads to longer life it is the heart of why the first commandment with promise comes with living longer, that if children honor their father and mother. (Exo. 20:12) It is the message of 1 Jn. 4 which determines if we are children of our Father God or of the father of lies the devil.   It is how we know we are in God and he is in us, and the blessed assurance we can have in knowing that if we are in him we can have boldness in the day of judgment. Our walk in this life is working up a judgment on our behalf, one that will bring about boldness for our good, or condemnation towards our end, however we must make that choice.

Finally as we end with the characteristics of God that ought to be in us as the foundation in our teaching of understanding the will of YHVH for our life, I want to encourage you to live your life in obedience to YHVH. Not because it saves you, but because you love Him, even as He loved you and walked before you the life you ought to live. He did that so you won’t have an excuse to do otherwise, seeing that the one we are to imitate has left His testimony for us to follow. I realize this world doesn’t make it easy to do what is easy to do, but always remember that the whole world lies in wickedness, and it is darkness’s job to try to drive out the light, but it is the lights job to shed light on darkness because the two can’t inhabit the same space. So instead of putting the light of Christ that is in you under a bushel let it shine before men so that when they see your good works they will glorify your Father which is in Heaven.


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How To Understand The Will Of YHVH For Your Life: Part VI Submission

Submission in our culture is looked at as one of those dirty little words, somehow it gets thrown in with feminism as a curse word of some sort. However, the greatest example of submission was modeled for us at the garden of Gethsemane where our Savior submitted himself to the will of God even unto death. Eve in her deception failed to understand that her decision caused her to be submitted unto the enemy and placed her in direct opposition to the one who made the command. Adam submitted to his wife, which caused him to be in direct rebellion against YHVH.

 

All throughout scripture we see scriptures that admonishes us to humble ourselves under the mighty hand of the Almighty. To submit to God, for husbands to submit to God, wives to submit to husbands, and for the body to submit to one another. There is a divine lesson that is being taught, and that is if we desire to be exalted we must humble ourselves as servants.

 

In the bible the English word “submit” appears twelve times, but the original Hebrew and Greek words for the English translated word has various meanings and appear more times in scripture under different English words.

 

H6031 appears 89 times in scripture and was translated as “submit” in Gen. 16:9. The strong’s meaning is:

 

anah – A primitive root (possibly rather identical with H6030 through the idea of looking down or browbeating); to depress literally or figuratively. If you were to do a word search in Strong’s you will see this strong’s number appear 83 times, but translated as “submit” only once.

 

The next Hebrew word that is translated as “submit” is Raphas:

Raphas (H7511)- A primitive root; to trample, that is, prostrate: – humble self, submit self.

 

This word appears 3 times

 

Kachash (H3584) – A primitive root; to be untrue, in word (to lie, feign, disown) or deed (to disappoint, fail, cringe): – deceive, deny, dissemble, fail, deal falsely, be found liars, (be-) lie, lying, submit selves.

 

Total KJV occurrences: 22

 

Now this last one appears to have a completely different definition from the other two. Though it appears 22 times, the consistent definition seems to be for the word “lie”. This last one is the only one that doesn’t seem to fit its use. For the sake of understanding the character of God it is clear we can delete the last definition from our view of the Hebrew word for submit seeing as YHVH is NOT a man that He should lie, nor son of man that he shall repent. (Num. 23:19) That said we know that there is no characteristic of God that can lie or fail. The second one fits perfectly as this was the characteristic we see of our Messiah who humbled himself even unto death, the death of the cross. (Php. 2:8)

 

Walking in love and in submission is a very easy thing to do when people are moving in accordance to the plans we already have or in accordance to our will. The problem comes in when there is conflict with the person in whom we are submitted to that is in contradiction to what we think should be done or how it should be done. Submission is often thought to be synonymous with obedience, but submission is more of a heart attitude rather than an act. This is difficult for me sometimes because I can often obey what I am told to do, but my heart is not in it. No one else but God and I may know it, but it is the greatest challenge in life that I must submit to the altar of YHVH. As it relates to things like food this is no big deal, my body may want a Big Mac, but rather than obeying or submitting myself to that desire I will eat what I know my body needs. This becomes a problem when it relates to those who God has given as a covering for me. The enemy’s tactic is to cause me to question their intention, but what I have to remember is there is a way that I can have a heart right towards God without obeying what those who are in authority over me request. For instance, Daniel is a great example of this, Daniel didn’t obey the King’s command not to pray to his God, but Daniel didn’t disrespect the authority that was over him. He didn’t boast in what he was doing, nor defiantly rebel, he peacefully disobeyed man and when he was caught he didn’t go off on those who enacted the penalty for that decision. We have to remember that even when we are standing on the right side of the issue we will be faced with punishment when it goes against the demands of an evil government.

 

Today we see this blatantly taking place as it relates to the President of our country. People have no qualms speaking their minds in direct disrespect towards the authority who was voted into power. One can disagree with the policies of the President without disrespecting or speaking in opposition of him. The fallout of such behavior has led to the open unsportsman like cutting under the belt type tactics that we have witnessed during this political season. Instead of watching possible contenders for President of the U.S. debate the issues that the people face with a clear direct plan and focus on expressing that plan we have seen name calling, and childlike behavior, with lack of substance that will benefit the people. Yet, come January we as a nation will find ourselves under the authority of one of them, and if I hadn’t learned the test in my home on how to continue walking in what Yah has told me to do, even when those who around me don’t understand, who are in authority over me then how will I deal with it when the power that governs me on a national level impact me? These are things to consider, however, the examples in scripture reveal that it is always in order to submit to authority, and always in order to obey God, and when the two are not at peace with one another the response must be it is better to obey God rather than man, and be prepared for the persecution that may come as a result of your stand.

 

Thought the natural inclination of the flesh when it comes to impending or even potential pain is to flee, there is no scripture that promotes that sort of behavior. We are to remain humble before authority even if it is wicked authority, but with full obedience and unwavering allegiance to the King of Glory, and if that ends in stoning like Stephen, or stripes like Paul, or being cast into lion’s dens and flaming furnaces so be it. Obedience without question to YHVH with submission without waiver to the authority He has put in place. For the heart of the king is in His hands and He can turn it withersoever he wills. (Prov. 21:1)

 

Lack of submission to appropriate authority reveals weaknesses in our faith in Christ, and reflect the areas in our lives where we have failed to die to our own will. Forsaking all for the kingdom of YHVH requires that we lay aside our way of thinking and submit ourselves to His way of thinking. This is why we are to pray without cease, it is in praying without ceasing that we learn the lessons of yielding to His Spirit. I had a love test this week that I know I failed, in my own hurt and disappointment I chose to allow my flesh to be satisfied with walking beneath the level of love that the Father has put in me. When we see such blatant ugliness and hateful acts purposefully poised against us the natural response is to retaliate. As I stated earlier it is easy to submit to those who submit to you, to love those who love you, to obey those who obey you. The test of if YHVH is in you is how do you respond to those who do the opposite? To those who despitefully use you, speak evil against you, and take under the table pop shots against you. Do you share the love of God with them or do you find yourselves lead by the same level of evil that they poise against you? Know in advance that for those types of people your love may continue to be returned with hatred, your service may yield no return from them, but your obedience to Christ in the face of such treatment will yield much reward in the kingdom of Heaven. So sons and daughters remember in whose character you walk, and in whose authority you are under. Submit to those who are in authority and walk humbly before your God.

 

 

  1. In what ways are you being challenged to submit to those responsible for your care (home, government, world)?   What is your heart attitude towards those figures? If there is an area where you are failing read the stories of how Christ handled authority in the face of conflict and apply what He did to your life.

 

  1. Who is the authority in your life? Both direct and delegated. List them, and ask yourself if you are submitted unto them in the Lord?

 

  1. What is the difference between submission and obedience? Is it clear in your mind when you need to obey God rather than man? Remember the scriptural wisdom provided to us to battle the temptations brought to our mind, to first submit to God, resist the devil, so that he must flee! (James 4:7)

 

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How to Understand the Will of YHVH For Your Life: Part IV Distinguished by Distinction

Walking in the character of YHVH means we are a unified one, with three parts of our one being, that are equally important and now we learn created with distinction.  Even amongst equals there is a first, and we know that first is YHVH, the Father.  The will supercedes the words we speak or the actions we take.   The will is the driving force behind us, the motivation in what we do, which is why God takes it straight to the gusto with us bypassing the superficial things that mankind looks at and looks directly at the heart.  It is only at the heart of the matter do you get the truth of the matter.

In our world we have magnified equality to the point that we want to completely remove the importance of distinction.  It is distinction that is being attacked in the feminist movement.  The feminist movement proves that Eve still suffers from the same area of deception that she suffered from in the beginning.  To trust YHVH, who said that when He created us He did so in His image and likeness.  What did the serpent do?  He caused her to doubt God, and question her identity.

(Gen 1:27)  So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

(Gen 3:5)  For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.

(Gen 2:17)  But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.

Gen 3:4  And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:

So let’s just consider the course of events, God said we were created in his image and likeness.  What does the serpent convince her?  That only if she eats from this tree God forbid them to eat from shall she be as god.  The next point God said if you eat from this tree ye shall surely die, what does the serpent convince her?  Ye shall not surely die.  What is the point I am making?  The enemy is very successful for helping us answer the wrong questions and consider the wrong things.  For instance the question we should have been thinking is why do we want to know evil?  How is eating something going to give us what we already have?  So what are we doing today?  We are forcefully fighting for the equal right to fight in wars, yet we don’t see men fighting for the right to carry a baby for 9 months or breastfeed one?  The enemy has us fighting the wrong battle because he has successfully caused us to ask the wrong questions.  Which leads to us being at war with the distinction God created within us.

Our distinction when celebrated makes us a very pivotal part of fighting any war.  Every war requires healthy soldiers.  We are the suppliers of those soldiers.  We are the necessary part of the development process for men to learn and develop courage.  He gains confidence from the security he gets from his mother’s voice.  Her nourishment returns in him a courage that for her he will fight to protect.  Yet, this is only half of who he is, the distinctive role of the Father is where he begins to understand his purpose.  Having confidence with no aim is fruitless.  While mom helps him understand why and how, it is dad who helps him know what to do and when.  Together their distinction makes for an equipping team that when appreciated and respected will help a son or daughter confidently walk out their role in life.  You never send a woman to do a man’s job, and a man cannot do a woman’s job.  If we can learn to equally appreciate and respect our distinction then working together we can fulfill our God given purpose.  It is futile for us to expect that we can achieve peace among nations when we aren’t even at peace among ourselves.  Just because we can do something doesn’t mean we should.  In this battle that is raging against the sexes and in our zeal to prove to men that we can do their job we don’t ask ourselves what’s the end to erasing the distinction?  The end is the perverted product we see before us, where men want to be women and women want to be men.  Where people are offended by being recognized as a specific gender.  Children being required to produce their own spiritual and physical nourishment.  While we are on a quest to fulfill missions we weren’t called to our children are being sacrificed to the wolves.  Confused about who they are and about who they are supposed to be.

Scripture reveals distinctions, distinctions among women and men, and between the Father and the son, and the roles we serve in the family, community, government, and world.  He also gives us examples of those who forfeited the victory for not appreciating it. (Jdgs 4:9) Those of us familiar with the one woman who was a judge in scripture.  When she does that which was the responsibility of the King in leadership she makes it clear that her involvement would come at a personal blow to him.  Because just as a woman takes on the identity of her husband, in a war a victory is given in the name of the one who conquers.  Deborah understood what this meant and though she accepted the position that was being given to her, she didn’t grasp for it.  YHVH can use man or woman to achieve His goal, as we have seen He can use a donkey too, none of God’s creation is off limits as it relates to him fulfilling His will, but it does come at a personal loss to the one to whom the responsibility was given.

There is a distinction in God, there is a distinction in God’s creation, a people who don’t understand that will inevitably self destruct.  So what can we do?  Women, celebrate who you were created to be in Christ.  Society doesn’t have to value you for you to be valuable.  A society that doesn’t value wisdom, will soon experience the error of that decision.  Because to oppose wisdom leads to folly as proverbs reveal.  Indeed we are valuable, we are compared to wisdom, when proverbs speaks of wisdom it speaks of her and she.  Our boys learn to be men, as mom’s appreciate being women.  As we become comfortable in being who we are they learn to be comfortable in being who they are, and as we do so we will see them rise to the occasion of being the warriors, protectors, providers, and the conquerors they are destined to become.


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Getting closer to the finish line on this book.  Too many of us are losing wars against the enemy of our soul because we don’t understand the war that is being waged.  We don’t understand the strategy that he is using to fight us.  As in this weeks teaching we see that the serpent was more “subtil” than any beast of the field. (Gen. 3:1)  Many wars in home isn’t sparked by blows to the fist, that is the reaction.  It starts with what thoughts we keep.  Notice, I didn’t say what thoughts you think, but the ones you keep.  Adam and Eve was given every tool they needed to cast down the thought the enemy gave.  But they didn’t.  Many of us are losing the war today for the same reason.  In this book you will learn how to use the wisdom of the serpent in achieving victory in your life.  You will be able to defeat the enemy with his own artillery, and learn how to apply the wisdom of the word of God in the practical way he presents it.  We can understand the invisible things of God by the things which he has made.  (Rom. 1:20)  It’s time we take him at his word.

 

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How to Fight Darkness

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Many of us are engaged in a war in which we can’t see our opponent because we are fighting in the dark.  Instead of turning on the light we are trying to fight the darkness with the wrong tools and at a great disadvantage.  How can you effectively fight against something you can’t see with your human eye?  Like King Saul we suggest and use the wrong armor to fight the battle. Can it really be as easy as turning on the light? Are the behind the scenes questions we have injecting doubt in Yah’s ability to give us the victory with merely a slingshot and five smooth stones?  Human effort will cover the earth looking for solutions from without for an answer that begins from within.  We simply need to just turn on the light.  Light can drive out darkness better than your broom can sweep it out, or your weapons can coax it out.

Now one might think to themselves that sounds easy, but have you ever tried to turn on a light in a dark room?  How easy is it to find that switch or a nearby flashlight without even a flicker of light?  How many obstacles must you circumvent to get to that place where illumination resides?  It’s much easier to turn on the light when you have light to see, now add to the obstacle unfamiliarity with your location.  Let’s say it’s pitch black in a vacation home instead of your home.  How much harder now is it to see and to navigate territory that you have not had time to commit to memory?  Add to this the surge of adrenaline you get as you naturally begin to feel fear because the darkness becomes so thick that you can feel it.  It is no longer just external, but it is now amplified. It becomes very difficult, even paralyzing.  The only thing that could possibly break through is the power of love for someone else, like a husband his wife, or a mother her child.  Is this not the very story of the Gospel?  God so loved the world that He sent His light into the world to overcome the darkness we were to helpless to defeat.

Now we can have His light within us.  As the word of God He should be burning within us at all times, because His light within us can’t be turned off.  Isn’t subject to power surges, and does not dependent on daily hours to operate.  In fact His presence within us becomes that much brighter in the presence of darkness.  The amount of light we possess is directly linked to the amount of confidence we can have in the face of darkness, even strange darkness.

And God said, Let there be light: and there was light. (Gen 1:3)

Created in the image and likeness of God, He allows us to see in the natural the comparison of His spoken power.  Today we have voice activated lights that allow us to visually comprehend the spoken power of God’s word.  At only His word darkness was interrupted by the presence of His light.  Amazing, that God will allow man to make something that demonstrates His creative work in the beginning.

In life we often think we must do some great thing to do the works of God, when Christ was showing us all along that all we need is to believe God enough to speak to the mountains in our life for them to be removed.

 

And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you. (Mat 17:20)

Now don’t get me wrong speaking to the mountain is not the hardest part of this process.   Scripture reveals the hardest part of this process is believing, which is why Jesus doesn’t start this conversation with what they are saying, but correcting them on their unbelief.

And straightway the father of the child cried out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help thou mine unbelief. (Mar 9:24)

Realizing our weakness the Gospel records the thoughts that anyone who has experienced a trial in their life has felt in this very passage.   We have the benefit of this passage to see the compassion of Christ when healing this fathers child, because this man was sincere enough to admit what God already knew.  He needed help with his unbelief.  If we live long enough we all will have storms that we will measure God’s ability based on our limitations.  Like this man we must come before God in honesty admitting we need Him to help our unbelief.  We also need to realize that unbelief can be conquered, but it does require an interruption in our day.  Business as usual must come to a halt and like Christ we must separate ourselves from the circumstances of life so that we can hear the instructions from the Father.  To be still and know that He is God means we may have to find a quiet place, deny our flesh through prayer and fasting, and turn on the light of God’s word where we will receive illumination for our circumstances.

 


Scripture admonishes us to be as wise as a serpent?  What a curious statement that of all the animals God created the serpent is the one who God tells us to be like when it comes to wisdom.  How powerful is that?  In this book we will explore the characteristics of a serpent that translate into viable wisdom for us as believers to apply to our lives.  We will be challenged in our thinking so that we look at things from a different perspective.  There are many lessons in the bible and in the things God created that many of us don’t take time to consider.  This book will begin to help you to be more sensitive to the nuggets of wisdom that escape the one who just takes a casual glance at scripture and encourage you to dig deeper so that you can have all that God has for you.

 

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Why Do Bad Things Happen To Good People?

I’ve heard this question asked by many people. Usually from those trying to explain the nonexistence of God, which usually sounds something like, “if there was a God why would he allow bad things to happen to good people?”   Or by others trying to understand why they lost a loved one unexpectedly. The question is indelibly, why me? Well, I just wanted to share some of my thoughts from what I received from scripture. First and foremost, there are NO good people. So the question is a misnomer because we ask it comparing people to ourselves. Jesus, the greatest or “goodest” man who ever walked the face of the earth stated there was none that was good. (Matt. 19:17)   However, even if I consider the question from the standpoint of comparing ourselves among ourselves, in which scripture also has something to say about that, then this is the approach that I would share it from. (2 Cor. 10:12)

God’s ways are so far greater than our ways that even from the aerial view of a plan tens of thousands of feet in the sky we still can’t imagine the love God has for us. There are two passages of scripture in particular that the Holy Spirit dropped in my spirit concerning this.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. For as the rain cometh down, and the snow from heaven, and returneth not thither, but watereth the earth, and maketh it bring forth and bud, that it may give seed to the sower, and bread to the eater: Isa 55:8-10 

 

The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance. 2Pe 3:9

 

Now concerning the first passage of scripture, remember the plane analogy I just shared. From an airplane the earth looks like a multi-textured quilt interwoven in various patterns, and it appears so small that you can see States from an oval window at once. Now imagine God sees way more than we can see from an oval window in a plane, which means that while we are like one speck of dust compared to the multitude of people everywhere from His view, we look at our pain, our circumstances and we isolate ourselves from the world. Forgetting the second passage of scripture I shared, which is that God is longsuffering for a reason. That reason is he desires that none shall perish. He even cares about that man who went into the Emmanuel AME  ministry and murdered those people in Charleston, and watched as they prayed then killed them with no remorse afterwards.  Before you get angry at me for making that statement, just keep reading.   Why would he allow this person to live and so many innocent people to die? Well, because God sees our eternal welfare as being more important than our temporal state of being. Read Acts 7, here we see Stephen sharing the truth with his own people, just giving them a history lesson of the faithfulness of God and the unfaithfulness of God’s people. After he shares this profound truth with them they didn’t rejoice and thank him for this revelation, but stoned him. God would allow a man who is doing His work, and according to the passage itself full of the Holy Spirit to be stoned to death. He didn’t allow him to escape it, didn’t raise him from the dead, but rather brought him to his heavenly place to enter into the glory set before him. From our perspective it would seem that the just thing might have been for God to strike down those wicked people for murdering him, but if he did that what would be the eternal state of those who died? We know that it is appointed unto man once to die and then the judgment. This means the end result for such a person in this position would be eternity in the lake which burns with fire. As important as this life is, it is temporal, no matter how we exit it, the point is we will exit it. Whether we suffer for our sake or righteousness sake we will not live forever in these bodies.

 

Rom 8:23  And not only they, but ourselves also, which have the firstfruits of the Spirit, even we ourselves groan within ourselves, waiting for the adoption, to wit, the redemption of our body.

Knowing where you will go when you exit this body and being able to rejoice that our name is written in the lamb’s book of life it is the security that we as believers should have that helps us keep a heavenly perspective when we are faced with hellish circumstances. I don’t weep for believers who meet their Maker, they have gone home as Paul puts it.

We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. 2Co 5:8

One might say then if that is the case then why don’t we just end it all, before someone takes our life, or at least then I can choose how I exit? Because your life is very important, like Paul you have a mission and your heavenly reward is based on you completing it. Eternal life is a free gift that we receive but don’t confuse the perks of position with the benefits available with it. There are rewards for living a dedicated life to Christ, not in quitting life. In fact scripture makes it clear that quitting is not an option that reaps reward, no matter how hard things get.

 

And Jesus said unto him, No man, having put his hand to the plough, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God. Luk 9:62

But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death. Rev 21:8

Those who give up on life fall under the category of the fearful, and faithless. If we are living for ourselves and consider our lives to be our own, instead of being that which is bought with a price then we fall under that category. Some days we can feel like it takes way more courage to live than to end it all.  Your life is valuable and even if not to anyone but Christ, then live for Him. He gave up this life so that you could have eternal life, that is why there is no greater love than His. Indeed bad things do happen to innocent people, and isn’t it awesome that we serve a God that knows that intimately.

I did a series on Matt 10:16 focusing on the characteristics of a serpent that we as believers should apply to our lives.  Isn’t it interesting God didn’t say be ye as wise as Solomon, yet though he was given wisdom unlike any other man.  Think about it, we are in the situation as humans that we are in because a serpent was able to deceive Eve.  We need to tap into the wisdom of a serpent from a heavenly perspective, so that we would be able to defeat the enemy of our lives with the wisdom that God has made available in the earth.  I am making it available as an e-book. This e-book will show you:

  1. How the characteristics of a serpent can translate into wisdom for a believer and how we should walk in that wisdom.
  2. How to understand how Spiritual principles can be extracted from getting a natural understanding of how God created the serpent.
  3. Often times we don’t get what we need in our walk with Christ because we don’t hask the right questions.  The right questions in how we study can make a tremendous difference in its benefit for us.  It is insightful in that it will ask questions at the end of each chapter so that you can reflect on them and gauge if you are using this wisdom in your life.

The e-book is currently in pre-production, but you can fill out the form below to let me know that you are interested in reserving a copy.  The cost will be $5.00.  I am making e-books to save on cost of printing.  If you would prefer a hard copy please let me know as you submit me your contact information, if enough people are interested in a hard copy I will provide print on demand, but the cost will more than likely be more than $5.00.

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Our Real Struggle in the Flesh

Too many people are basing their love for Messiah on what other people are doing. There should not be one person who leaves Yahushah because of what the body does. For as Paul said, “was Paul crucified for you?” (1 Cor. 1:13) This same question we must remember when we are confronted with challenges in relationships with organized religious leaders, spouses, and parents. Our relationship with the Lord should not be hinged on those who represent or misrepresent Him. The failure of these key figures to mirror the example of Messiah for us doesn’t reflect on Messiah’s love for us, but rather reveals a lack of Messiah in those who don’t walk in the love he exemplified.

If my desire to be a Godly wife is based on my husband’s treatment of me or his reciprocation to respond as a Godly husband then I lose a great opportunity to walk like our Messiah. The example He set for us is that while we were yet sinners he died for us. We didn’t deserve, we didn’t love and we weren’t reverent. As the scripture also says we love Him because HE first loved us. (1 Jn 4:19) It took a love out of this world to come to this world to show us what love was. If it could have been found in a human being other than Christ then He wouldn’t have needed to come. Yah sought someone who could make a hedge between him and us and none was found. (Eze. 22:30)

By all means I encourage ministers, spouses, and parents to walk in the footsteps of Christ, that they lose not their reward, knowing that to whom much is given much is required. Yes, I implore you as leaders to walk and respond to others as Christ dictates because I truly believe that he meant exactly what He said concerning it being better for a millstone to be tied around one’s neck and they be cast into the sea then to offend one of His little ones. (Matt. 18:6) Nevertheless, we make a grave error if we allow abuse to be an excuse for turning away from God. We misjudge the longsuffering of the Almighty upon what looks like a person getting away with wrongdoing in this life. Living a comfortable life, with lavish things, and good health is not proof that someone walks with God, no more than being financially poor, sickly in health, or living in deplorable conditions necessitate that someone is not a believer in Christ.

Paul suffered poverty, lived in deplorable conditions at times, and suffered sickness, and was in the will of God when he was in these conditions. (Phil. 4:11-13) The operative word, the most important point of his discourse as it relates to this condition is he did it through Christ. You do yourself no favors doing it without him. Because whether in or out of the body you will go through something, but it is far worse to do so without Christ. The first attack that will come upon a believer when these sorts of challenges face them is against their helmet of salvation. Don’t allow yourself to get to the “why me?” syndrome, this opens the door to the attack. The enemy will send sucker punches to your mind to cause you to doubt your standing with the Lord. It is important at this time not to take off our armor, and certainly not to allow what man does whether it is leader, spouse, or parent to cause you to give your helmet to the enemy. Be resolved within yourself to let NOTHING separate you from the love of God, no matter how hard the challenge may seem.

If you are reading this and you have left the Lord because of abuse done to you in a local assembly, or because of a spouse, or because of parents not reflecting the love of God, come back to God. As stated earlier, abuse is no excuse to turn your back on He who never turned his back on you. Do not judge Yah’s love for you based on what others do, as Paul said, was he crucified for you? As he makes clear in 1 Cor. 11:1 follow him as he follows Christ. The implication being if he isn’t following Christ don’t you follow his example. This is a lesson for us all, as inspired as the men who wrote letters for us in the bible were, only One man was without sin, above reproach, and died for you, all else were subject to missing the mark. All else had struggles with their flesh, and so will you. As much as David was a man after God’s own heart, he missed it on several occasions. Don’t think that because you will miss it that you don’t love God, and don’t allow the enemy to cause you to leave your relationship with God because of what others do.

Now don’t misunderstand I am not saying you should make yourself a mark for the enemies target practice either. Loving someone doesn’t dictate that you give them ammunition to shoot you, if the situation dictates you removing your presence then do so. However, you don’t have to be bitter as you go, choose to be at peace when you leave. Sometimes opposition comes because God knows you wouldn’t leave otherwise, so he has to make you uncomfortable. Other times he may tell you to stay, to release you later, but make sure that whatever step you take it is ordered by Him and not by a whim. It’s not about trusting people anyway, because there is no scripture that tells you to put your trust in man, God wants you to put your trust in Him. This is the challenge that is placed before you. As with Messiah there were times he was to stand and face adversity, but there were also times he was directed to flee the situation. It is only as we walk with Him will we be able to discern which one we should do. But my friends think it not strange the fiery trial which is to try you. Don’t be deceived by ministers preaching immature messages that would lead you to believe that if you aren’t having your best life now that you are out of the will of God.

Paul didn’t have his best life now, Peter didn’t have his best life now, and certainly Christ didn’t have his best life now. What they all had was a life that fulfilled the purposes of God before they left and that is what a life following Christ gives you. He tells you, you will have tribulation, and he tells you to be of good cheer because he has overcome it. (Jn 16:33) He tells you, the servant is not greater than the master, and thus if what was done in a green tree by the “powers that be” took place to him do you really think you will escape the tribulation to come? (Luke 23:31) We like Yahushah, like Paul, Peter, John, Stephen, and a host of others will have opportunities to leap for joy if we stay hooked up and we follow His instructions. He will allow you to go through the fire, but you best believe you won’t be in it alone, he doesn’t always circumvent the lion’s den experience, but he is able to shut the mouth of the lion, and think not that it is impossible for you to be at the peak of your career yet be faced with the trial of your life. Is this not the story of Daniel who because of his faithfulness to God was put in a place of leadership when he and his people were under captivity? Was he not thrown in a lion’s den for following the instructions of Yah?

If you are going through some challenges in your relationships, if you have been betrayed, abused, or misused, don’t give up on God. Hold on to your faith, and know that God is for you, no matter who is against you. We put way more trust and faith in people then the scripture allows, and therefore we make sweeping generalizations based on human shortcomings. There is only one who died for you, and there is only one you can trust without waiver, and that is Yahushah. Politicians, religious leaders, or even family members should not have your uncompromised trust, nor should they have the power to separate you from the love of God. We can only overcome our flesh by walking in love, because while faith may waiver, where hope gets tired, love never fails.

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Are You Being Called Home or Are You Being Sent?

Being called home is a releasing of consent on behalf of the called to choose to go somewhere they consider to be a place of comfort, love and joy. Being sent home is a forceful hand of rebuke to a place where scolding is about to occur. The writer Paul reveals a life of one who is being called home. One who is not being taken by surprise like a thief in the night to a place that is foreign to him, or that he is running from, but instead is being given a loving release into the hands of a caring Father who has said my son your work is finished and done well, now enter into your reward. He is not kicking or screaming at the thought of returning, but looking forward to it as one does a vacation they prepared for in advance.

“For I am now ready to be offered, and the time of my departure is at hand. I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them also that love his appearing”. (2Ti 4:6-8)

 

“And when he was come unto us, he took Paul’s girdle, and bound his own hands and feet, and said, Thus saith the Holy Ghost, So shall the Jews at Jerusalem bind the man that owneth this girdle, and shall deliver him into the hands of the Gentiles. And when we heard these things, both we, and they of that place, besought him not to go up to Jerusalem. Then Paul answered, What mean ye to weep and to break mine heart? for I am ready not to be bound only, but also to die at Jerusalem for the name of the Lord Jesus. And when he would not be persuaded, we ceased, saying, The will of the Lord be done.” (Act 21:11-14)

 

Paul speaks as a man ready to go home, to endure whatever momentary affliction necessary to get there. His hope and desires were not wrapped up in what this world could offer. Having suffered at the hands of preaching the Gospel to the lost, and even making lasting beautiful relationships with the children of the Most High, yet his mission was bigger than this earth could contain. He didn’t see himself as one who belonged to this world, but one who belonged to the Lord. Like Paul we have to make a decision are we going to be attached to this life and all that it entails or attached to Christ? Will we live to make a difference for the kingdom of God or a dollar for the advancement of this world?

We don’t face an economic crisis, or a security breach, we face a moral crisis, and a breach of conscience. -Torie McLaughlin

How else can one figure Paul saying, to live is Christ and to die is gain? Such an expression in the minds of psychologists would lead them to wonder if he was suicidal because of his current state. The pleasures of living had somehow cease and thus his mission enveloped his whole reason for living, to such a degree that death was an invitation to an upgraded benefits package.   By no means do I believe Paul was suicidal, I believe Paul was focused and non distracted by the temporary pleasures of this life. He was singularly focused and understood that his life’s purpose was greater than his personal pleasures. Those things which in our minds make life in this mortal body more precious to us then life in our glorified bodies with the Lord.

We must have a change of perspective. A fresh look through the lens of a disciple who disciplines himself to living for Christ regardless of his personal feelings or condition. Is Christ only worth serving when all is well in our world?  Have we relegated the living God to that of a Genie who grants wishes? Is our serving Him only done when things are going our way? I thank God that his unconditional love towards us was such that while we were yet sinners, not thinking about a Savior, He chose to die for us, the ungodly that we might have an opportunity to be restored to Him. When our frame of mind was to stone him, his was to forgive our ignorance. Life presents opportunities for us to really see where our faith lies. Sickness, disappointments, set backs, and set ups are put in place so that we can see whether or not we are Peter before Christ died or Peter after the empowerment of the Holy Spirit. Are we depending or leaning on our understanding and judging God based on our viewpoint or are we committed to Him even when we don’t understand what He is doing in our lives?

I’d like to say my faith is always where it ought to be in regards to this, but like Paul I have those moments where my flesh is in control and as he stated in Romans 7:19 “For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.” There are very personal areas in my life where my faith is being challenged, and nothing in the natural says that I should trust that things are working out for my good, yet in the midst of it, I know God is maturing me, and nothing that hasn’t been weathered after conditioning can truly be tested or made tough for durability. I am believing every wrinkle has a purpose and I am being seasoned for a greater glory ahead. If you too are being challenged just continue to hold on Yah is preparing you for a greater glory.

Finally, this is the question I ask myself, are the decisions I am making preparing me to be called home or sent home? Like Paul do I bear in my body the marks of Jesus Christ or the marks of my own wayward decisions? (Gal. 6:17) Will I allow Christ to be magnified in my body, whether it be life or death? (Php. 1:20) Am I keeping my body under subjection: lest that by any means, when I have preached to others, I myself should be a cast away? (1 Cor. 9:27) By all means I want to be called home when my time comes, but by no means do I want to be sent home. I am now sent to the nations through the tongue of my pen as a ready writer and trust me what I say to you convicts me too. (Psa. 45:1) I have by no means arrived, but I strive towards the mark of the High Calling of Messiah Yahushah and it is my duty as my brothers keeper to encourage you to do the same. (Php. 3:14) Shalom my readers and good night.

Time Out For Games

Perhaps now we can stop playing long enough to realize it’s time out for games.

I’m not sure how to feel about this “Take a knee” stance. Oh don’t get it twisted I’m not saying I’m against it. The crazy thing is somehow this action which has to do with oppression is being equated to patriotism. Smoke screen for sure, but what’s more amazing is sports which in this nation has been like a god for people. I mean people will curtail the word of God on Sundays so they won’t miss Sunday night football. It would seem has met its match, and who knew a bended knee would be all it would take to get people out the stands.  The dilemma is they aren’t leaving in repentance towards God, but in bowing to what clearly is a bigger god then football in this nation, itself.  It’s called patriotism, and don’t shoot the messenger I’m not opposed to respecting your country, and if the bended knee action was an affront to the beloved anthem or flag salute I would get it, but it’s not. Just because someone calls something unpatriotic does that make it so? Or is this another cover to once again blow off the 400 year old topic that seems to continue to be ignored.  We can’t even be saved by Yah’s standard until we confess our sins, why is it suddenly being deemed a sin to merely point out we have a systemic sin issue in this nation that needs to be addressed? Our nation needs healing, but a sick person can’t be healed until they realize they are sick.  Nevertheless, America we can’t keep putting off the inevitable at some point we will have to address this issue and sooner better then later. I admit I’m not a fan of football so I am glad to see there is something that can remove its idolatrous force, it’s just sad that it wasn’t the love of Messiah that did it.  I just pray whatever this movement is becoming it some how some way leads to the Lord, otherwise it becomes another humanistic futile effort that leads to unbeneficial change.

TimeShare or Senior Continuum Care Communities

The current model of healthcare services provided for our elderly who require assisted living or skilled nursing is not only passe but depressing.  Anyone who loves their loved one who is faced with having to make a decision concerning where they will spend their golden years understands the heartbreaking options that await them.  Our current Medicaid system needs a revamp and Capitol hill is far behind on making the changes that are necessary to meet the growing need of care.  If you haven’t done any shopping in what the cost is for getting skilled nursing I would highly encourage you to begin shopping.  One of the major changes that need to take place is the choke hold that skilled nursing facilities has on medicaid provision as well as long term care insurance options.  Today, there are better options available to those who fall between the areas of skilled nursing and assisted living and quite frankly the cost for services of the better option comes with a much more reasonable price tag.

It makes more economic sense and common sense, especially if Medicaid is supposed to serve the people rather then the industry to encourage elderly people in need of assistance to stay in an assistant living facility as long as it is possible.  By leveling the playing field and widening the market as far as options the competition would actually push more skilled nursing facilities to provide higher levels of service recognizing that families get to not only choose between skilled nursing, but also assisted living and memory care facilities.  This provides a greater incentive for nursing homes to fix their own internal problems and fine tune their services.  Those who have persevered in working to build this country and make it what it is today deserve better then a place to hold them until they die.  A place that neither our loved ones want to be and their families want to visit them in.  After years of toiling and turning, making a way for your children and sacrificing to meet their needs it seems unfitting that the end game would lead to seclusion in a skilled nursing facility where your basic needs of health are neglected unless micromanaged by your family.

We who are in the working class need to have a shift in our priorities.  Rather then spending our money on a timeshare that gives you one week a year to escape the hustle and bustle of life we need to begin shifting our extravagant vacation fund into retirement property.  Obviously setting aside funds that can’t be touched such as a funeral trust or funeral insurance that would need to be at least $10,000 if you plan to be buried underground with a tombstone and as low as perhaps $6000 if your goal is to be cremated.  Whichever one you decide this needs to take high priority because you are not guaranteed to live long enough to be old and enjoy retirement living, but death is almost a certainty for most of us and having funds set aside to accommodate that need is key to having your wishes honored.  However, if you do live long enough to make it to old age, or even if you find yourself falling prey to a debilitating illness it is important that you be prepared for what the cost of living is for aided care.  This is a topic that many of you know I have been passionate about ever since my loved one suffered a debilitating sickness.  The options out there are few and far between and the compromises you have to make especially if you are not financially prepared for such a catastrophe is quite limiting.

The baby boomer generation are all reaching a point in their life where retirement services of some sort on some level are almost guaranteed to be a must.  Driving may become taxing or due to vision and reflexes could be completely out the question so being in a community that has other transportation options available will be very important.  Cooking and cleaning is another chore that many of our elderly people are less able to do, whether vertigo becomes a problem making looking up or down a challenge, or energy levels fluctuating causing the chores of doing daily tasks difficult, but you’re still able to use the bathroom, bathe yourself adequately, and the like then a senior community is an ideal situation to be in.  Having had to look for out of the box answers to meet caring for my loved one who lives hundreds of miles away, while meeting their desire to stay out of skilled nursing we had to  consider every possibility within his budget to provide for his care.  What I have found is that many places are heading in the right direction, with of course the most important ingredient to success being having quality workers who desire to provide quality care.  However, probably the perfect marriage between this rental based living is a full continuum care community that extends its reach to not just providing rental property, for assisted living and memory care residents but providing purchasable real estate property for self sustaining seniors who can still live independently or with their families in a 2 or 3 bedroom home.

Let’s face it many of us who are in the working class now live a certain lifestyle that we are accustomed to and certainly we aren’t working ourselves as hard as we are to end in the corner somewhere at a institutionalized nursing home if we can help it.  Thus, the next wise development would really be to provide senior living communities that incorporate short term rehab, nursing home, assisted living, and memory care within a housing community that also extends itself by providing cottage style housing options.  While assisted living apartments and memory care apartments would not be purchasable real estate property, many seniors would enjoy the amenities and environment of being in a senior community, but a steak they can actually buy not just sink their teeth into.  Which is where patio homes or cottages around the enclosed community would be an ideal situation.   This housing would require that selling of the property must be only provided to residents who meet the age criteria, but otherwise is a place that their children could inherit as they get older or as they require senior care needs.

As stated one thing is for sure we will get older and our ability to go up twenty stairs everyday will change, these luxurious garden tubs will become a pain, and cooking and cleaning well that will become as old to us as we are.  Having the ability to have a retirement community that extends its housekeeping, therapy plans, dining options, and community resources to those who own homes within the community is a major plus.

After selling your home nobody wants to find themselves in a rental situation again, and should your health decline the advantage of a senior living continuum care community is that your one time community fee paid when you first entered the community provides for you to transition to whatever level of care your physical state requires without having to pay a hefty fee when you are least financially prepared to do so.  By being proactive in your downsizing you have made it possible to be exactly where you need to be when changes occur and membership has its privileges as you would be able to easily transition to the next level of care at a membership rate, and because entrance is both limited and exclusive you have access to the most prime property which means that should you not financially be able to afford the next level of care, selling your home on site provides financial security for your transitional level.

Also, by being proactive by buying property onsite and paying your one time community fee at closing or at an age when you are receiving steady income versus a fixed income you forgo the community cost that is sure to go up over time to make the shift.

This model allows for greater affordability for even the middle class savvy senior to get in. By downsizing on a home that you may have paid off or come extremely close to paying off your equity plus your principal travels with you which will put you at a major advantage when starting fresh in our new community.  You could easily find yourself in a position where your new home could be bought out right or at least completely paid for before you are 65 if you move in at 55.

Resort style living in safer locations.  Smart shopping for property would require looking for land that allowed for turning a forest into a goldmine with natural water features, and fertile land, being a plus situated in an area that is not prone to natural disasters being more ideal.  Let’s face it as beautiful as Florida is the constant threat of hurricanes and other natural calamities make it a recipe for disaster when you mix that in with seniors and especially senior citizens with disabilities.  So, the ideal spot for this senior continuum care community would require paying close attention to safe locations.

Everyone should have choices and a senior care continuum community ought to be able to offer that and that should extend beyond the walls of the assisted living, memory care, and skilled nursing unit.  For this cause the next level of senior continuum care communities should include the following:

  1. Home Ownership for independent structures.
  2. A sliding scale association fee based on the amenities you choose to partake in. A base fee which covers the cost of the common area grounds, as well as your personal property, and in and outside home maintenance warranty, as well as supplemental services that can be added on for an additional fee.  This service can be added on a monthly or yearly basis.  Monthly services being able to be cancelled at any time and yearly services at a discount but nonrefundable.  Supplemental services such as:
    1. Weekly housecleaning
    2. Meal Plans (both dining in and carry out services)
    3. Personal Fitness Programs
    4. Club Activities (i.e. bridge club, golf club, pool club, etc…)
    5. Utility package – (Pay a one size fit all fee monthly for electricity, water, internet, landline phone service, and water)

Again the grounds should also offer some form of recreation, as we age we become less mobile so having things available at arms reach is key to keeping our baby boomers, booming with active, vibrant, and healthy lives.  For this reason these communities should offer shopping options, recreational options, and services.

  1. Shopping Options
    1. Dollar store
    2. Gift store
    3. Fresh market
    4. Bakery
    5. Clothing boutiques
    6. Video Store
  2. Recreational Options
    1. Pond for fishing
    2. Golf course
    3. Miniature golf
    4. Botanical garden
    5. Walking trail
    6. Park
    7. Movie Theatre
    8. Library
  3. Services
    1. Medical services on site (vision, hearing, dental, general practitioner, chiropractic, naturopathic doctors, o.t.,p.t., s.t., therapy)
    2. Spa & Beauty Salons
    3. Personal Fitness Services

These options are optional and should be based on the interest of the seniors of that area and should be considered on the front end of construction. The more rural the area the more likely you will have to provide services in house, the more centrally located the less amount of services you would need to provide onsite.  Consideration of location and the interests of the people in your area should always be the priority when planning.

The baby boomer generation has a much greater appreciation of home ownership and having something to pass down to their children, even if their children aren’t particularly interested in what they would like to pass down.  Nevertheless, this is a noble thing, and one thing for sure if their children keep living they will live long enough to appreciate the benefits of functional housing that is handicap accessible especially when in combination with a luxurious touch.  If children are too young to take advantage of living in a senior community then renting out the property to other seniors in need of the space is also an option.  Which in the end still makes this property a worthwhile investment attractive to anyone who fits the age criteria.  By having the amenities that are available at arms length they can decide whether or not at any given time if they would like to add on services, and those services will be billed to them beginning that next month for those still independent they still will enjoy the basic services of carefree living, not having to concern themselves with mowing, or major maintenance issues.  Either way this way of thinking and investment in Senior continuum care living is simply a wise choice offering amenities and options for both the independent senior and the assisted needs senior.

If you would like to continue to receive correspondence on this topic and dream with me just a little while longer in aging with dignity follow my blog.  I will be posting more food for thought on this topic as well as reviews of facilities that I have visited.  If you would be interested in investing in building a senior continuum care community also join in on the conversation, at some point it will be time to take what is being written on a blog and see it come to life on land.  The first phase being to invest in land, and the second phase being to invest in architecture and landscaping.  Finally, if financial investment is not something you can do you can begin changing legislation.  Start making your voice heard concerning widening the use of medicaid to include assisted living and memory care as viable placement options or some sort of voucher program for Seniors requiring 24 hour care to be made available for assisted living and memory care facilities.

When Caught Between A Rock And A Hard Place Concerning Your Loved Ones Care

Its a strange thing having to make decisions for the person who made decisions for you for the first eighteen years of your life, and frankly I wouldn’t wish an ailing parent on anybody.

Learning how to respectfully disobey their desires when what they desire defies reason and puts both your life and theirs in jeopardy is like walking a tight rope.   Trying to make a wise decision in these circumstances are overwhelming, and when the problem is related to partial memory loss the situation is amplified times 1000.

If you would have asked me before I married, moved 12 hours away from home, where my parent would stay in the event of illness the answer was easy, but also because in my mind I never considered memory loss nor the impact caring alone for an individual with memory loss what it took.  Yah  gives you glimpses as I have been blessed to see a family member who has had to be a caregiver for her husband walk it out, but with sons, in-laws, and grandchildren to assist with some of the load.  Of course, they also had the added benefit of living in the area that this person lived their entire life which does assist with at least slowing down the rate of confusion and dementia that a complete separation from home turf could cause.  But when that person would have to move away from everything that is familiar to them to live with you, it is a wild card to say the least.  The support of living siblings become a lifeline, but somewhat out of reach when they are spread out as well.

The fairy tale of reliving dreams, reminiscing over old times, and even enjoying watching television together is replaced with frustration, irritation, and confusion.  The person you confided in, at times even debated, but overall loved and respected looks and sounds like a stranger.  The hope for even a moment of clarity and any spark of connection becomes the straw you grasp for.  It’s a bleak reality, that is compounded all the more if you’re not prepared. Imagine if your parent literally was lost in their own mind and this all happened overnight.  I’m talking a parent who lived alone most of your adult life, they live States away from you, and your siblings and suddenly they have taken ill.  Your status instantly updated from being their child to also becoming their caregiver, what would be your course of action?

Unfortunately, many of us have absolutely no plan mapped out and about the only thing we do know and make known to our loved ones is we don’t want to be in a nursing home. So what are the options? Does a family move across the country to accommodate the wishes of the one parent, at the risk of their family?  Does the ailing parent suffering memory loss move from the only familiar surroundings they know including the people they have known their whole lives to go to a strange land where all they have is you?  And then what do the siblings who also are spread out have to do to see their parent-travel to this new land which could be across country for them? Then, if you do move them only to require more help then you can provide and in the end they still end up in a nursing home, from your home or in their home state.

The mental and emotional challenges are more exhausting then the myriad of paperwork and planning that it takes to make the transition from home to nursing home.  But make no mistake no matter which choice you make your full involvement will be required.

As crazy as this sounds I thank God that even in this tragedy He is opening my eyes to an issue that in the day in and day out of living I never took time to think about.  I wish it didn’t take what it took to open my eyes, but the reality is we are no longer in the society of close knit large families.  In this nation most people stick to the 2.5 children and Lord really be with you if you have less.  The strain and stress of trying to keep up with the Jones’s has caused many of our children to be total strangers to us as they age being more mindful of video games they played, television shows that raised them, and outings with peers because family simply was too busy to raise them.  Babysitters, grandparents, unwed, single, without children siblings pitching in here and there, but parents have spent most of their lives attempting to acquire the “American Dream”.

So what is the mindset of children who were raised by this system when tragedy strikes their parents?  They are equipped to return the favor, alleviate the burdensome situation by placing their parents into the system that they were desperately working so hard to get out of and to free their children from.

Does the child see placing their parent in a nursing home as the opposite of love?  Of course not, if all indeed was done for the sake of the children then as the child grows up this mentality doesn’t change it evolves, and its evolution ends in “let the professionals handle this.”  After all that is the reason why some of us who are not chasing the American Dream won’t pull our children out of the institutions of school and teach them ourselves.

Our generation has not been trained to handle when major problems arise, we can google answers, we can look it up in a book, or ask Sirius, so what should you expect from a mechanical age other then a mechanical answer.  For those of us who would attempt to take in our loved one we live in a society where support from spouses, financial situations, and homes don’t accommodate those with disabilities, and the finances and time that it would take to bring it up to specs still leaves your loved one who needs help now in limbo.  Bottomline, is whether you would take in your parent if you could, or their sickness requires more care then your home could adequately provide and a skilled nursing facility is required whatever your situation is do an assessment, not just for your loved one, but also for yourself.

While you are of sound mind have the conversation with your children or whoever you would entrust your estate to concerning your wishes should that time occur for you.  Also, be reasonable, if you have spent the majority of your life alone with occasional visits from your family, but you have enjoyed your solitude and although you like your kids and family lived your life privately, plan wisely.  Unfortunately, we have not maintained the communal mindset that once was prevalent in this country.  Most people barely speak to their neighbors much less engage in bartering, visiting, and looking out for one another.  So if you are a private person who have an independent rather then co-dependent mentality it is imperative that you take this time to begin looking at options available to accommodate you and the lifestyle you have grown accustomed to.

Living in a nursing home requires living in a community environment and even with the “system driven” mentality that we have been ingrained in we have always kept a clear separation between being involved in systems from without and being a recluse from within.  One thing the American Way has trained us in is having our space, and one of the reasons why the idea of a nursing home rubs us the wrong way if we are honest is the communal aspect of it.  This isn’t the whole but if we are honest we have grown accustomed to having our way, our space, and our privacy.

How do you plan for future changes that must occur because of your health?

  1. Begin having the conversation, first with yourself about what sort of communal environment you would be willing to live in should the need arise.  Don’t be dogmatically against the notion.  Begin considering under what circumstances you would be willing to go to one and begin researching the options that are available based on your income or services in your area.
  2. Be able to articulate to your loved ones your wishes and come together to discuss what role they should play in this process. Remember, you are not in this alone, be vocal with your family and friends what your expectations would be in terms of their involvement with you.  Such things as if home visits would be allowed, if they would be willing to take you to church service on Sunday’s or commit to have a visit from family at least twice a week.  Who you would want to be in charge of finances, your personal effects, etc…  By simply having this conversation while you are in your right mind your brain may have a record of the updated conversation on the issue.  Because if we keep meditating on our past response on the issue, and our adamant opposition to it we will be less willing to concede to it if we are faced with the reality of our condition.  The leading cause of death in nursing homes are Alzheimer’s/Dementia.  Its a disease that’s vastly affecting lots of people and even with the best of care, at the root of the disease is what is left to live for when you remember nothing?  We stay connected primarily because of the people we are connected too.  When we lose that connection life cease to have much meaning to us, and thus for all intense and purposes we are alive, but dead, here but not.  This disease takes its victims while their bodies are still warm, but what accelerates dementia?  Or should I say can it be accelerated?  This may be the only foreseeable means by which you would be comfortable with living in a nursing home.  At this point I am not sure that you would necessarily be willing, but more appropriately less able to vocalize your complaint.  Which unfortunately also puts loved ones at a more vulnerable position, and requires family to be even more attentive towards that persons care for that reason.  Being willing to go to a nursing home is not the same as you actually being required to go to one.  But your willingness to go, and your preparation to go does assist your loved ones should one be required or needed.
  3. Be open minded.  If you are mentally closed off to the possibility then nowhere you go will be good enough.  Research requires that you do some investigating and there are a few things you should keep in mind when investigating.
    1. Make an impromptu visit to local facilities, and particularly on the weekend.  Healthcare is a business like any other so be wise, these places want your business even if they are filled with a waiting list.  In this industry people can be well one day and in the grave the next and just that quick a bed is available.  So recruitment is always fair game. By visiting during off hours you get a chance to see how the unpolished services flow, things like staff attentiveness, treatment of patients, availability of needed services, security, and you get to communicate with people whose check isn’t based on commission or job dependent on recruitment.
    2. Ask other people you know who have had to use these facilities what their experience was like.  If scouring the reviews on the internet is not reliable enough for you then ask your friends.  Chances are someone you know has had to use these facilities for someone or know someone who has.  They can tell you the pros and cons and can save you time and energy in checking these places out.
    3. Begin thinking in advance should the worse occur and your level of care requires more then your family could reasonably handle where you would want to go.  Knowing how bad it can get means it is important for you to know how well the facility meets the needs of its patients.  How clean and happy do the patients who are there look? What does it smell like?  Make sure that you are in the skilled nursing area, we have been to places where the rehab section smells good and looks gorgeous and then when you see the skilled nursing side it is scary and uninviting.  Be sure that if you do an impromptu tour that you are led to the area that would be your home should you be required to stay.
    4. Review all the options of care based on your level of health.  If you were in reasonably good health, such that your family could house you, but you were still fairly independent and know that this would not be something you would be comfortable with on a continuous basis, find out what independent living or assisted living homes would be within your budget and to your liking.  This would have to be an ongoing process. But make sure you journal your records and keep those who you care about updated as you make changes
    5. Write in Pencil.  As stated this industry changes rapidly so don’t get too comfortable and stay connected. Stay regularly aware of changes in management, rotating personnel of your top list contending facilities, these are things you should keep tabs on.  Thankfully, technology does allow for you to get e-mails from some of these places, I encourage you to get them and read them.  If the activities and news you hear doesn’t excite you now then chances are it wouldn’t be of interest to you if your health was impaired. Which means you have to keep that in mind when laying out before your family your desires.
    6. Don’t choose alone.  Its good to have someone to go with you for moral support as you make decisions as well as to think of the things you won’t.  It’s a different thing when you are shopping for yourself, even if it is just for the possibility.  Be able to articulate what you do and don’t like, consider it a buddy system thing, because again the person who is going with you might be looking for you, but by going they are also able to assess somethings for themselves as well.
    7. Top Contenders do a tour.  Those places you are really considering you should do a full tour.  Come again and get the tour of amenities, philosophy of the place, pricing, and options available.  Many of these tours include a meal.  This is very important, for many people the taste of the food can be a deal breaker so knowing how they rank in that arena also is important.

You don’t think about things like this until your faced with the situation and so it wasn’t until I was faced with the situation that I begin to analyze the fact that this can happen to anybody at any given moment and no one is exempt so we can’t afford to be dogmatic that we wouldn’t be willing to go to a nursing home especially if our loved ones are not in a position to care for us.  To the child who would like to take in that parent, but that parent doesn’t really want to stay with you either, or even if they did want to stay with you, your living situation wouldn’t accommodate it find a suitable compromise.  I believe at the heart of the issue with skilled nursing facilities is getting a good one, and indeed that is challenging.  You will have to make some compromises and if your parent’s memory is gone enough that they don’t know who they are or where they are then you may want to consider moving them into a facility near you or near a relative who would have the time it would take to visit them regularly, develop rapport with the staff and hold their feet to the fire.  Otherwise, if left with no one to visit there is no telling what condition your parent will be in when you do finally visit.  This is an area where micromanagement is needed. Also, depending on their level of care you may want to consider having them in a nursing home, but taking them home with you for weekend visits or short vacations.  Done regularly and consistently one can achieve the benefits of assisted quality care and spending quality time with their parent that when they were well was probably not spent.

Please be advised I am not bashing anyone who finds themselves between this rock and a hard place, because I am there with you.  I had to really pray to God and be at peace about the possibility of having to put my loved one in a skilled nursing facility.  The same questions I am posing I had to ask, should I bring them where I am or leave them where they are.  I wish I could tell you I had a definitive answer, but the answer is still in the making, but I can say that I have a peace now that should I need to place them in a facility, I can be okay with that decision.  You have to know your parent, know yourself, and know what is first in their best interest, and finally what is reasonably within your ability to do.  Just make sure that you do for your loved one what you would want someone to do for you.

We don’t know how we are going to leave this life the only thing we know is that we are going to leave it and so it behooves us to do a little bit of preparation for the unlikely but possible event that could cause us to live before we wake up, and that’s if we do.  There are loved ones who have outlived some of their children with Alzheimer’s, and many times the caregivers leave before the ones being cared for.  We invest in funeral insurance and life insurance policies but we don’t invest what is most important to invest in while you are still alive, in the event that we don’t peacefully die in our sleep before losing our minds or our health.  We don’t invest in spending time at nursing homes visiting those who have been put away, forgotten, never realizing that if it wasn’t for the grace of God we could be in the same situation, and as long as we are still living we don’t realize that there is no guarantee that this reality isn’t in our future.  I am not saying all of this to get you fixated on any of this, by all means I am not suggesting make this your life’s work searching out a place you can be placed in the event sickness strikes.  The greater message I hope to convey is while you are well, spend the time you have with the people you would want to spend time with if you were sick.

The greatest inheritance you can pass down to your kids is not houses, cars, or stocks and bonds, but the gift that keeps giving compassion, and love.  Trust me if you should find yourself in this situation there are going to be people who you will want to care for your loved ones as though they were their loved ones, and trust me money doesn’t guarantee the best service.  You can spend good money on someone caring for your parent and your parent be treated as subhuman, but it would be that person who gets paid the least, but loves your parent the most that will give you that priceless service.  These are the things that the American Dream can’t buy for you, only loyal family and friends, and love and favor from the Lord.

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High Security to Your Own Demise: The Side Effects of Behind the Times Banking

Had I known the challenges that awaited us in banking with a company who has chosen to be left behind in the dark ages.   I know for many especially the elderly it is comforting banking with smaller banks that have chosen NOT to crossover to the more technologically advanced systems we have today.  There is a blatant distrust of the security of all these fancy high tech options that are now available at our fingertips, and the ability to have that hospitality of the good ole days and that constant contact with that family feel of banking in person, well it is nostalgic, and definitely provides a more personal touch and can make for a more high security atmosphere, at least one would think.  However, with most things in life for every pro there are considerable cons and if you are prone to sickness which tends to be par for the course with the loveliness of aging this antiquated way of handling business can become a serious crutch.

The first thing I would like to point out is if you are aging, and especially if your children or the one who you would entrust to make decisions concerning your welfare in the event of an unexpected illness should occur I would recommend you get a joint account.  This should be done no matter who you bank with.  One sure way for things to go aerie with your credit, your possessions, and potential trouble with the IRS is to be in a situation where no one can access your cash.  However, I will say that if the unexpected sickness occurs and your recovery takes longer then a month’s billing cycle then you can put your family in a very compromising position and these out of date banks can add strain to an already strenuous situation for those responsible for handling business in your absence.   Bottomline, no matter how sweet and courteous your local banker can be, make no mistake they are going to abide by the established bank guidelines and regulations set up by their employers and unfortunately that could mean that if family doesn’t have the discretionary income to cover your short fall that you are going to be in serious trouble with a lot of people and may even find yourself if the illness prolongs beyond expected in a situation where you could be homeless.  Having said that there are several things that my experience in this situation has caused me to consider and questions you would be wise to ask your banker if they provide.

  • What does a joint bank account give my joint account holder access too?
  • If I do not have an ATM card or debit card, and I become too ill to come into the bank myself can my joint account holder apply for an ATM card on my account to access money for me?
  • What type of legal documentation would be acceptable for conducting business concerning my account and what type of changes would this documentation provide for them?

Most of us would like to think that we will always have our wits about us, but the reality is this is not a guarantee.  Read the statistics yourself to see what can happen in your future.  Look at your own genetic history and uncover the incidences of diseases that affect mental health in your family.  The more extensive that is the more prone or susceptible you are to suffering from similar diseases of the same kind.  Unfortunately, we don’t take time to think about these things and when tragedy strikes it is too late to retro-activate anything and believe me the strain of a financial burden on your loved ones who already have to cope with the emotional and mental stress of your health situation makes a bad situation desperate.

Other important options that your bank need to offer is online access.  Of course this would be archaic if such a bank existed and didn’t offer it, but beyond that there are a few things that any potential bank should give you access too..

  • Bill pay options – This option should allow for you to pay people directly as well as set up accounts for monthly service payments. Make sure autopay is also available, again, a loved one shouldn’t have to be caught between caring for their loved one and remembering to pay your bills on time.  Auto access alleviates that for them.
  • Mobile access – We live in a society where we are constantly on the move. Having access on a mobile phone means that I am not bound by buildings, nor have to be home to handle affairs quickly and promptly for you.  Making things easier on the caregiver means that they have more time to focus on what is most pressing, your care.  Mobile access also means that any checks that must come to your caregiver who may not live where you do can make it possible for them to deposit cash in your account remotely, and quickly.  Mobile deposits for many banks show up the same day you deposit it.

Finally, I realize living in a global society that identity theft and hacking is a real serious threat to our financial security and our piece of mind.  However, I would encourage you not to fear using these avenues, but instead educate yourself in learning how to safely use these tools.  Remember, there is no bank that does not use the internet as a tool to access your account information.  If they can find a safe way of protecting your identity while accessing your information online, certainly so can you.  These are just a few tips  from a series of information I will be providing for those who are interested in having the conversation we need to have on preparing for our golden years.  This article is part of a section that will be in a book, and perhaps at some point a documentary called, “If I should live before I wake.”

A Message of Encouragement for the Troubled Marriage

Ladies I love my husband he is truly a man of God.  But there is a place in me that is only reserved for God and we benefit greatly from it being there.  If any men are catching wind to this conversation, trust me my husband feels the same way about me.  I am a living witness that connection with the Almighty on a consistent basis for the right purpose made a tremendous difference in our relationship.  God strengthened and renewed our marriage even when I didn’t petition him for it.  It was in essence a side effect of my direct attempt to get closer to YHVH.  He healed wounds in me from past hurts, and gave me love through my husband that I always longed for, but my effort could never produce.  However, take note I said this was a side effect, meaning I wasn’t seeking Him for this, I was seeking Him for Him, and as I sought to be in closer relationship with Him, He brought me closer to my husband and in turn my husband closer to me.  But if we give that place that is reserved in us for him to our spouses then we set ourselves up for the devastation that comes upon many people who have awaken one day without their spouse.  Only God is without beginning or end, has been before we existed and will be after we are gone.  We live in mortal bodies, that we have little say so on when the ticker called our heart will stop ticking, thus the instruction for us is to be happy in knowing that He is our God.  He is real, and He loves us. (Psa. 144:15)

A marriage made in heaven, but secured on earth.  For those who have the testimony of never disagreeing with their spouse, and the fulfillment of happily ever after you won’t be able to relate to what I have to say.  Except for the difficulty of losing that person through death if you haven’t made YeHoshua your first love.  But for those of us who had to experience the growing pains of two distinct people with different personalities fusing together to submit to one will this can be terribly uncomfortable.  Especially when that one will is not the will of God. I know it may seem like this is a message directed at those who are in the world without God. But it’s not, with a growing rate just about equal with the world, believers are heading to the courthouse for divorce as fast as non-believers, it is not a coincidence that we are suffering from the same or similar problems as those who are in the world.  Husbands complain about wives not submitting to them, while at the same time they as husbands are not submitted to God.  Wives complaining about husbands not walking in love towards them, while at the same time demeaning and disrespecting their husbands.

We must have order in more than just the court, we need to have order in our homes and the lack of such order is the primary cause for abuses that occur.  Verbal abuse has given way to marital infidelity, but this doesn’t have to be the case.  If we would just put our trust in the Lord and commit to making him our husband we will find a peace that one cannot get from a sexual encounter or a host of flowery words.  We also will find lasting fulfillment that death can’t take away.  If you are in a marriage where verbal, and physical abuse is the norm and adultery is the rule I am not counseling you to go or to stay.  What I am saying is before you make another decision stop, breathe, and commit time in prayer.  Not just to save your marriage, but to gain God’s perspective for your marriage.  Find out what He wants you to learn from this experience, gain his counsel and his vision for the reason he brought you two together.

If you are questioning whether or not God brought you to your spouse, well that is another circumstance altogether, but even in that situation His counsel is recommended because while you are looking at your hurt, your disappointment, your sacrifice, he is looking at a lost soul, or a failed reflection of His image.  See marriage isn’t about you or the person you are married to, it is about God’s image being visualized in the union of male and female coming together as one and producing Godly seed.  This Godly seed is produced whether or not you birth any natural children at all, because your love for one another translates into a healthy picture for the world to see, and experience the Messiah Yehoshua (Jesus the Christ) love for his bride.  This in turn gives birth to healthy imitations rather then distorted mutations of the truth.

Let’s face it we come to him as a less then perfect bride that in the end will be presented to him without spot, or wrinkle or any such thing. (Eph. 5:27)  Read a verse before 27 and you will find that she doesn’t start out without spot or wrinkle, but she starts out requiring cleansing, which he does with his word if we have ears to hear it.

This is what prayer is about, not about just what you have to say, but also what Yah has to say.  It puts you in a position to hear from God, especially if done for the pure desire of being in relationship with him.  This is key, if the only reason you petition God is to get you out of a jam this is no different for him then the way we feel when our kids only call us when they are in trouble.  Children who we only hear from when they need something cause us to always be on edge when they call, expecting for the ball to drop.  Because we know them we most of the time already know what the problem is before they even spill it.  We already brace ourselves for what the call will cost us and in many cases have already set the money aside knowing that there would be a need.  This is not how it should be done in the kingdom of God.  We should not only desire to be in the presence of God when we are in need of something and if this is the relationship we have established it should be no small wonder that we have a shallow relationship with God.  The way we feel about our children who only call when they need something is the way he feels about us when we only call when we need something.  But the more significant loss is on our part.

We serve an awesome God and that is not just rhetoric, but reality we miss out on being blessed just for being tuned in with him that is far beyond just meeting our needs whatever they may be.  Get to know Yah, make sure that you are letting him in that space placed within you that only He can fill.  When you recognize how precious you are to Him, no one can make you feel less then that and you’ll begin to see the truth concerning anyone who would try.  Your marriage is a reflection of your relationship with the Lord be it good or bad, so before you make a decision to leave it, be sure to seek the One who joined you to your spouse.  Don’t allow yourself to be the one who put asunder what Yah has joined together.

 

 

Happily Ever After

wedding-322034_1920There is a reason why the phrase “happily ever after” appears on fairy tales and not in wedding vows.  Yet, many who are married seem to think that somewhere in the fine print there is an understanding that another person is to be responsible for our happiness.  Having no scripture, no vow to substantiate the validity of that request means that its neither a requirement of our spouse to accommodate that request nor is it our responsibility to fulfill that for anyone else.  Happiness is a state of being that is predicated on our relationship with the Creator.

Happy is that people, that is in such a case: yea, happy is that people, whose God is the LORD.  (Psa 144:15)

Another reason why we may find ourselves in a state of unhappiness may be because we are not keeping the laws of God.  According to the bible there are forty two verses where the word “happy” and sometimes translated “blessed” (strongs number H835) appears and only two conclude a form of happiness based on what another human being can provide and in that context it was related to having a child which was a response of a person not a command of the Almighty. (Gen. 30:13)  Another such scripture that eludes to happiness being directed towards an individual is once again based on children not the responsibility of a spouse. (Psa. 127)   The majority of the scriptures on this topic falls under three primary categories:

  • Those who keep the laws of God,
  • Those who seek after wisdom and understanding,
  • Those who suffer for righteousness sake

Many of us make happiness a requirement of another individual as though it is a commandment when in actuality if we keep the commandments of YHVH, God is stating to us that we would be happy.  Have we tested him in this?  Are we keeping the commandments of the Almighty?  This notion or expectation of someone or something else to bring me happiness is a tall order that is guaranteed to lead to a let down.  A lot of my unhappiness in other words was self induced because I had a wrong perspective concerning happiness and who was responsible for providing that to me.

There are laws that God established concerning the duties of a wife to a husband as well as the duties of a husband to a wife.  While we can have all the reasons in the world for being remiss in fulfilling those duties, no excuse will hold up in Yah’s court when we come before him.  So for this reason I am happy as the scripture states I would be for accepting the correction of the Almighty.  (Job 5:17)  Correcting poor behavior or habits obviously doesn’t happen over night, but the happiness I feel is like the relief you feel when you confirm the diagnosis of an unnamed sickness.  I don’t know if you ever had something wrong in your body and no one could tell you what it was.  You’ve been to doctors and they can’t tell you, you’ve prayed about it, and you still didn’t get an answer.  Not knowing what is wrong can be just as bad as figuring out what you got, and just as deadly.  The idea that what you are experiencing is all in your head and not real can lead to self doubt and make you feel like you are going insane.  Putting a name to it somehow brings about a strange feeling of calmness that comforts you.  Because now you can begin to address the problem, since it has a name.  We know that God’s name is above every name that is named. (Eph. 1:21)  But it’s hard to pray for a disease that has no name, it feels like beating the air or fighting the wind.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. (Eph 5:22-30)

Many women become unglued with verse 22, but the bottom line is if this scripture didn’t end with, “as unto the Lord”, then I could see how this could be problematic.  We know that the Lord would never ask us to do something that is against his word, and therefore if we understand that our submission is not just to a man, but to YAH, man is fallible and as such we are not expected to obey  ANY MAN that would command us to commit a sin.  Submission is a heart attitude concerning authority, and through our submission in marriage we are able to reverse the Eve effect that exists in society.

We also see that he doesn’t make a condition that if your husband loves you, as Christ loved the church only then are you to submit to him.  The same way he doesn’t make a commitment to husbands that they are to love you, only if you submit to them.  Every individual is responsible for their role in the relationship and praise Yah that he is just and won’t judge us by others action, nor judge others by ours.  Each individual will be judged by their own actions.  Which brings me again back to why I am so happy.  Because it was the word that stated, “For if we would judge ourselves, we should not be judged.”(1Co 11:31)

In my actions I lived as though the principle of reciprocity was to govern my actions with my husband rather then the principles of scripture which is not depended or dictated on how another treats you, whether wrong or perceived wrong, but rather on your personal relationship with YHVH through his son YeHosHua the Maschiach.  If YeHoshua waited on His bride to rise to the fullness of His expectation of her to be obedient to Him in everything before he loved us, where would we be?  As scripture put it, we love him because he first loved us. (1 Jn 4:19)  He initiated the love and boy am I grateful.  This is where our happiness should lie.  People will mess up, Yehoshua knows this, which is why there is no scripture that tells us to trust man, any reference to trust in the bible is in relationship to God, but never to man.  We can trust God in man, but not man alone.  My confrontation on this topic was liken to a diagnosis of a problem that was causing me much grief in my own relationship, and though I still have not arrived, I am thankful to find my way back on the track, and praise God that my Happily Ever After is not dependent on humanity, but is found securely in Him.