Ladies I love my husband he is truly a man of God. But there is a place in me that is only reserved for God and we benefit greatly from it being there. If any men are catching wind to this conversation, trust me my husband feels the same way about me. I am a living witness that connection with the Almighty on a consistent basis for the right purpose made a tremendous difference in our relationship. God strengthened and renewed our marriage even when I didn’t petition him for it. It was in essence a side effect of my direct attempt to get closer to YHVH. He healed wounds in me from past hurts, and gave me love through my husband that I always longed for, but my effort could never produce. However, take note I said this was a side effect, meaning I wasn’t seeking Him for this, I was seeking Him for Him, and as I sought to be in closer relationship with Him, He brought me closer to my husband and in turn my husband closer to me. But if we give that place that is reserved in us for him to our spouses then we set ourselves up for the devastation that comes upon many people who have awaken one day without their spouse. Only God is without beginning or end, has been before we existed and will be after we are gone. We live in mortal bodies, that we have little say so on when the ticker called our heart will stop ticking, thus the instruction for us is to be happy in knowing that He is our God. He is real, and He loves us. (Psa. 144:15)
A marriage made in heaven, but secured on earth. For those who have the testimony of never disagreeing with their spouse, and the fulfillment of happily ever after you won’t be able to relate to what I have to say. Except for the difficulty of losing that person through death if you haven’t made YeHoshua your first love. But for those of us who had to experience the growing pains of two distinct people with different personalities fusing together to submit to one will this can be terribly uncomfortable. Especially when that one will is not the will of God. I know it may seem like this is a message directed at those who are in the world without God. But it’s not, with a growing rate just about equal with the world, believers are heading to the courthouse for divorce as fast as non-believers, it is not a coincidence that we are suffering from the same or similar problems as those who are in the world. Husbands complain about wives not submitting to them, while at the same time they as husbands are not submitted to God. Wives complaining about husbands not walking in love towards them, while at the same time demeaning and disrespecting their husbands.
We must have order in more than just the court, we need to have order in our homes and the lack of such order is the primary cause for abuses that occur. Verbal abuse has given way to marital infidelity, but this doesn’t have to be the case. If we would just put our trust in the Lord and commit to making him our husband we will find a peace that one cannot get from a sexual encounter or a host of flowery words. We also will find lasting fulfillment that death can’t take away. If you are in a marriage where verbal, and physical abuse is the norm and adultery is the rule I am not counseling you to go or to stay. What I am saying is before you make another decision stop, breathe, and commit time in prayer. Not just to save your marriage, but to gain God’s perspective for your marriage. Find out what He wants you to learn from this experience, gain his counsel and his vision for the reason he brought you two together.
If you are questioning whether or not God brought you to your spouse, well that is another circumstance altogether, but even in that situation His counsel is recommended because while you are looking at your hurt, your disappointment, your sacrifice, he is looking at a lost soul, or a failed reflection of His image. See marriage isn’t about you or the person you are married to, it is about God’s image being visualized in the union of male and female coming together as one and producing Godly seed. This Godly seed is produced whether or not you birth any natural children at all, because your love for one another translates into a healthy picture for the world to see, and experience the Messiah Yehoshua (Jesus the Christ) love for his bride. This in turn gives birth to healthy imitations rather then distorted mutations of the truth.
Let’s face it we come to him as a less then perfect bride that in the end will be presented to him without spot, or wrinkle or any such thing. (Eph. 5:27) Read a verse before 27 and you will find that she doesn’t start out without spot or wrinkle, but she starts out requiring cleansing, which he does with his word if we have ears to hear it.
This is what prayer is about, not about just what you have to say, but also what Yah has to say. It puts you in a position to hear from God, especially if done for the pure desire of being in relationship with him. This is key, if the only reason you petition God is to get you out of a jam this is no different for him then the way we feel when our kids only call us when they are in trouble. Children who we only hear from when they need something cause us to always be on edge when they call, expecting for the ball to drop. Because we know them we most of the time already know what the problem is before they even spill it. We already brace ourselves for what the call will cost us and in many cases have already set the money aside knowing that there would be a need. This is not how it should be done in the kingdom of God. We should not only desire to be in the presence of God when we are in need of something and if this is the relationship we have established it should be no small wonder that we have a shallow relationship with God. The way we feel about our children who only call when they need something is the way he feels about us when we only call when we need something. But the more significant loss is on our part.
We serve an awesome God and that is not just rhetoric, but reality we miss out on being blessed just for being tuned in with him that is far beyond just meeting our needs whatever they may be. Get to know Yah, make sure that you are letting him in that space placed within you that only He can fill. When you recognize how precious you are to Him, no one can make you feel less then that and you’ll begin to see the truth concerning anyone who would try. Your marriage is a reflection of your relationship with the Lord be it good or bad, so before you make a decision to leave it, be sure to seek the One who joined you to your spouse. Don’t allow yourself to be the one who put asunder what Yah has joined together.